Kindness is the second attribute of love. A kind person is benevolent, he or she is always disposed to be helpful even when not asked to.
They are mellow, gentle, and they always seek to meet other peoples’ needs.
It’s funny in marriage how a husband would tend to give his wife what according to him is right, and vice versa.
I don’t blame anyone.
We have all been there at some point. I think most of the time.
Marriage requires commitment and maturity to make it work. That you can let the other person win, for the sake of peace. Kindness in marriage can only be nurtured if the couple learn of each other’s primary emotional needs, and try as much as possible to fulfill them.
For instance, she needs affection, he needs admiration. She needs validation, he needs your trust.
Be kind enough to say am sorry if you aggrieve your spouse, even when you are so sure that you are the one who is right. Sometimes a soothing word is the best weapon to use in an argument rather than lashing out.
Be kind enough to help her out, sometimes, in her chores, it goes a long way in showing her that you care.
Be kind enough to say to your husband, “Hunnie, you will make it”, even when you can already foresee the doomsday to the project he has already began.
Be kind enough to encourage him with your words, he needs your admiration, not criticism.
Be kind enough to complement her, even if she doesn’t “prepare” her meals and yet you are the gourmet kind of guy…with time she will learn.
Do the little things for her, in her world they are not little as you may assume.
Remember, her needs are not your needs. She will treat you like a king.
Be kind enough to understand when your hubby is tired and he just needs a rest, cut him some slack. The Bible says there is a time for everything, this means, there is a time to just let him be, and there is a time to communicate your issues.
Be a wise woman to know when to say what, how, and where.
Be kind enough to kneel down and pray for your husband. It’s not in your JD to fight him, God will shape him for you.
Be kind enough to listen to him. I know ladies brains are sort of networked. We can conclude in a millisecond, but, let him explain, and listen. Learn to tone down dear. Know that our mouths can do more harm than cut from a sword or a spear. Shouting at your husband won’t take you anywhere, in fact you will become a contentious woman. You may be aggrieved, but shut up and listen. Die to yourself girlfriend!
Yes, die to the SELF! Yes, love is Kind.
Kind enough to let your hubby win the argument so that you may win at the end. Remember, your character goes a long way in ‘switching’ your hubby on or off. Develop an attitude of gratitude. Learn to say thank you for anything that he does, or she does. It goes a long way to strengthen your marriage.
Be kind enough to apologize to your wife for the missed calls, missed birthdays’, missed date nights, anything missed.
Do not dismiss them or pretend they didn’t happen.
Be kind enough to help. Kind enough to put her before you!
Be kind, kind enough to love each other unconditionally.