- Devote to her Alone, fearlessly!
Be counted among the men who loves his wife unto death, pursuant of your vows to her.
Being faithful is certainly an expensive venture.
A real man, says no to wrong advances, and anything that poses as a threat to the relationship he has.
A real man, walks away, and at times he runs away!
A real man’s devotion is to the wife alone, and loves her with a passion so strong.
A real man loves the wife fearlessly.
Women thrive when adored and are made to feel special. Make her feel invincible! That no matter the gossip around, she knows that you got her back.
In this current world we live in, devotion to one person and cherishing that one person has become a rather “unusual” behavior! But, trust me, you should be devoted to each other to a point of not even noticing the criticism that comes with devotion to your marriage and wife!
The constant taunting and negative comments that come with either praising your husband of wife should pass as wind!
Personally, it’s unknown to me, it’s unknown to us because we are in our own world!
We do not give it much attention and so should you!
Your marriage will never be about pleasing everyone. Just but your missing rib!
So chose to be devoted to your wife, making her your priority, proudly committing yourself to treat her no less than a queen, making her unconditionally B.A.E (Before and Above Everything).
Be devoted to learn, understanding her daily and to know what makes her tick.
If you devote yourself to her more than even your work, she won’t feel the need to constantly seek for your attention, compete with your work, your ministry, or your “boys”! I mean the boys already know you value her more than anything! Devote your time to her. You cannot say that you love her yet you can’t make time for her, but you find time for Man-U vs Chelsea.
Of course, it’s important to you too, but prioritize her first. She will be the one reminding you that you have a game to catch!
Devote every resource to your family. I know of husbands who cannot show their wives their pay slips.
I do not know the slips that lead to those financial secrecy, but financial transparency is very important in marriage.
Remember, according to Proverbs, a good wife does the husband well all the days of her life. She will be good to you, if not, retrace back your steps, and make it right! Devote yourself to her, and her to you, actually that is all that’s necessary.
The aim is not to cross the finishing line alone, the aim is to cross the finishing line together, having endured the race and the test of time.
Make an effort every day, to devote yourself to her. Not just a part of you, but all that you can and all that you have.
I have come to learn that for a man to be perfect husband, he would have to be a woman, and for a woman to be the perfect wife, she would have to be the man! All that is not possible, that is why we need the selfless, unwavering, unconditional devotion to each other.
Be devoted to her Mr.!
4. Validate her feelings.
You think it makes no or less sense but it’s has profound effects.
Ladies go through a series of emotions and that is how God made us.
You as a man be happy the whole day, but a lady can be happy now and the next minute they are crying. Some of us cry over anything! You might break her vase in the house and she sulks. To you, it’s stupid because the vase can be replaced right? News flash Mr.! That vase was part of her!
Women tend to become “one” with everything around them.Funny enough it’s true.
Let her be. Her feelings are justified. She cannot act like you. Give her time to absorb anything and everything.
Don’t go telling her how stupid it is for a married woman to cry over a small things. Of course marriage hardens you, but she is a woman at the end of the day. If you call her stupid, she might as well call you stupid for giving her an idea of a project that she’s well aware of its failure!
But does she? She lets you gloat over an idea that is “oh so big” to you, yet in her heart she is silently praying “oh God, hunnie that is so disastrous”!
So please, validate her. It’s okay for her to feel all those emotions.
God created her that way, and saw her tears beautiful.
Remember the Poem
“Mom, why are you crying?” he asked his mom. “Because I’m a woman” she told him.
“I don’t understand,” he said. His mom just hugged him and said, “And you never will.”
Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?”
“All women cry for no reason” was all his dad could say.
The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.
Finally he put in a call to GOD. When GOD got on the phone the man said, “GOD, why do women cry so easily?”
“When I made women she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world; yet, gentle enough to give comfort.
I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children.
I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.
I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly.
This same sensitivity helps her to make a child’s boo-boo feel better and shares in her teenager’s anxieties and fears.
I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart.
I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unflatteringly.
I gave her a tear to shed, it’s hers exclusively to use when it is needed.
It’s her only weakness; it’s a tear for mankind.”
5. Reassure her, ad infinitum!
I could never get used to my hubby, just calling to say, “I love you”.
I love it.
Tell her over and over that she is beautiful. Communication is everything to a woman because it’s the only way to link you to her feminine side.
Unfortunately, you hear men saying that their wives are demanding.
“My wife says I don’t call her often.”
Let me give you a simple scenario. You as man might meet a high school mate and immediately, will connect. A few exchanges and you two are on track again.
For her, I bet it will not get past the awkwardness of “Hey”, “Where are you nowadays?”, “okay, we will talk”.
Why? She have not been in communication with her former school mate for long. There is no bond whatsoever, or if it is there, it’s so faint.
Ladies need to keep talking to reconnect back. For men, their brains are sort of “compartmentalized”.
You as a man can get into the ‘conversation box’, talk, and seal it back. For women, everything connects to everything.
She would be less demanding if you kept reassuring her.
That doesn’t mean that you should text her every minute, (of course it’s not practicable). It means that you have constantly and consistently show her that you love her, that you miss her, that you need her, in every possible way.
She needs to feel your presence in her life.
My husband goes away for a long time, months and months, but his presence is always felt.
Of course as wives, we have to play a part of understanding too!
Probably the guy is in a meeting and you keep calling, then tell him that he is ignoring you. Lady! Understand your man. Suffocating, and snooping all around him in the name of love won’t work out. Remember, he should feel that you trust him enough. They are created to dominate! Snooping on him will just create a rift between the two of you.
Learn to trust the best secret teller of all time! The one who knows his secrets even the hidden ones! Ask God to prune him if he is not walking right! Trust me the Lord is so good with exposing evil!
So stop snooping, quit the weird cat fights and phone fights, and trust the Biggest Secret Teller! The Lord God!
You need to catch your breath and let God mold you.
Mr., Reassure her constantly, that you love her. You don’t need to take her to a posh restaurant for her to know that you love her. It’s not bad at all to enjoy life, but do not peg your love on the vain things of life!
Material things are vanity, and they got wings. Deal with her soul. The best marriages are soul to soul! Bonded. Learn to unearth positive emotions towards her.
6. Remember her place, beside you.
Her place is not in the kitchen. It is definitely not giving birth.
Her place is not beneath you.
She is not a lesser being. She is not a “weaker” sex.
A wife is a helper to you. You place her above and before anything, she will reciprocate with a vivacious effort.
She is your missing rib, she is not a servant. She is a partner, your confidant, your friend.
She is a helper because every day, she props you by her encouragement, her cheers and her teary prayers.
She is a helper because when the winds of life blow in a different direction, she is the ever remaining constant.
So walk with her, side by side, like you have a conjoined hip!
“Marriage is when you realize that when the music has stopped in life’s games of musical chairs, you look around see that there is no chair that remains for you… Only to see your darling spouse smile lovingly at you . . . and motions at you to go sit on his lap. That’s what marriage is.”
Her Diet… His Diet… Our Diet!