We all know the saying, Pride comes before a fall! The society has cheated it’s way into our hearts, where it is “my way” or “no way”.
While the world says “my way”, the word says, “be humble”, “it’s about the other person.”
The word clearly says that Love is not proud, it doesn’t boast. Being proud especially in marriage is an act of selfishness. When a man tells his wife, “I am the provider, I get to say what goes on!” what does that that tell you about that man? Mmmhhh…Yes you could be the provider, but you are clearly missing the point.
When the wife wants her way or no way at all, what will become of the family? You might want something or everything sister, but, mmmhhh…you are clearly missing the point too!
Pride is the root cause of so many problems in marriages and in life. Being stiff necked and having a heart so calloused and unrepentant, doesn’t make your relationship or marriage any better.
Remember Paul? God saw how Paul’s heart was. He was a man of God yes! Performing miracles, having the access to the third heaven, but, God did what was so wise! He gave him a thorn in the flesh to remind him of humility.
God gave him that thorn to remind him that it’s all about the Lord and nothing about him.
A great impediment to having a good relationship or marriage is pride.
I say that pride is having a self-glorified, which a heart hardened towards submissiveness. It is being self-confident and self-exalting, unmindful of the ones around you.
Pride tells me not to forgive my husband because he has offended me too many times.
Pride tells me not to listen to my husband’s advice because, well, my intuitiveness supersedes his logic. I see beyond the superficial. I can do better.
Pride tells me not to say sorry before he does, after all, he is the one on the wrong.
Pride tells me I don’t need his input, my judgment is sound.
Pride makes me hold offenses against him because he didn’t fulfill the expectations i had.
Pride tells me that he is not as apt as i thought , well because he has never fulfilled our dreams.
Pride makes me hold grudges, have an unforgiving heart, and have so much bitterness in my heart.
Pride makes me contend with him in everything.
Pride says “I will get back at him” for the wrongs done.
Remember that Lucifer had only one sin that caused him to be cast out of the presence of God. Pride. All sins sort of brood in Pride’s nest. Again I will quote from my favorite book in the Bible.
A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinions
Pride is always self-exalting. I WANT. I SAY. I WON’T. I WILL NO MATTER WHAT. Contrary to that, humility loves to talk with each other and engage in constructive dialogue without disparaging each other’s views.
Pride assumes to know it all. It says “I don’t need help.”
Pride cannot wait to get. Humility gives and places your spouse before yourself.
Pride is always judgmental, negative and critical of your spouse. Humility is always open to hear, open to be corrected, and open to explore other avenues that might be beneficial to both of you. Humility yearns to learn.,
Funny enough, if you are full of pride you will treat your spouse like a competitor, rather than being one, IN MIND ,BODY,SOUL AND SPIRIT. Running towards the finishing race. Together.
“The true way to be humble is not to stoop until you are smaller than yourself, but to stand at your real height against some higher nature that will show you what the real smallness of your greatness is.”- as a result, you are challenged to be better.
In my marriage if I have come to learn to crucify my SELF daily. Crucifying yourself might be painful but it brings real joy and happiness, if you are willing to learn from your spouse. God molds you, and in turn, gives you a heart full of humility.
A heart like Esther’s. A heart like Abigail’s. A heart like Ruth’s. A heart like Ann’s. An ultimate heart like Jesus.
Love is humble. Love clearly knows the person you have is imperfect, but you decide to choose them daily, and give yourself sacrificially. You don’t deserve to be in this world either, if God had to go by His standards. So quit being proud and put your best foot forward to make your marriage last.
Savior I come to you. Lord, your know my heart. You know my mind and the struggle I face daily, trying to rely on my own understanding. Give me a heart like you Jesus Christ. That He humbled Himself to die on the cross for my sinful self. I know by your standards am unworthy, and yet you find it fit to wake me up daily, and give me a second chance.
Lead me to the cross. Rid me of myself. Help me to always be the humble wife to my husband. Help me to also humble myself to your will, and to your ways Jesus. Teach me and give me wisdom. Wisdom to build my house. Wisdom to love my husband. I pray this to you Lord Jesus.