#END OF LOVE SERIES. [1ST CORINTHIANS 13]
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast. It is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking.
It is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.
Love never fails.
As we conclude this love series, the last but not the least are the 3 characteristics of love. Love bears all things, love endures all things, and love never fails.
Christ to us, and to me as a wife, has been a constant reminder of what my love ought to be towards my husband and vice versa.
The bridal paradigm that Christ models for us is still my ultimate goal. A love so pure, so selfless, Agape love that bears and endures all.
We are not there yet. We falter and still hurt each other, but the good thing is that we press on, even when we fail each other.
Let me share what bearing means.
Bearing has many meanings. It could mean to give forth, and even to endure, but here is the real meaning according to 1st Corinthians…
A love that bears…means a love that conceals. How profound is that?
A love that bears, means a love that conceals.
It comes from the Hebrew word “stego.”
Love in other words, or simply translated, it covers and shields.
Dear wife, it is in your purview to shield your husband.
Dear husband, you wife needs your protection, not when she’s done something good, no, it’s not the only caveat for you to extend that grace.
It should be always.
I like making reference to the word, more so to Abigail because we can learn a lot from her as wives and wives to be.
She had a very stupid man. His name too didn’t make things any easier. He was Nabal.
His name meant stupid and so was his character.
In the Old Testament, ladies had little or no say whatsoever in the men they were to get married to.
Abigail was no exception. Abigail’s father married her off to a rich, stupid self-aggrandizing and condescending man, Nabal.
I can imagine her life, daily. She was a wise woman, beautiful on the outside and inside. I am sure many men would have treated her better, but she stuck in her marriage.
Not that she couldn’t find another suitor but she bore it, extending grace to her undeserving husband, and waited on the Lord to be pulled out of the mire.
Do I think you should stay in an abusive marriage – especially one that threatens your well being? Not at all.
Your sanity is paramount too, but you can choose to extend Grace daily to an undeserving spouse, and that is what Abigail did.
I think she spent her most of her marriage life in covering Nabal’s stupidity, rather than enjoying herself – before God killed him.
If Nabal had no regards to King David, what of his own workers? And his friends? Am sure he didn’t care much.
But Abigail’s bore and endured. She endured his stupidity and his self absorbed nature, daily.
Was it easy for her? No. Am not sure I would not have been any better, but she did so in obedience to God, not because Nabal deserved her. No!
More so she did what God commands us to do, she covered him.
She shielded his stupidity.
She covered her family and her workers too.
King David had set to finish off Nabal and all he had at his disposal, but, Abigail shielded him.
She did not expose her family.
She neither did she run away into the arms of another man. She waited until the Lord made David summon her.
Well, does that happen nowadays? No!
We have swayed off from the path of righteousness.
We are women who talk more than listen and pray more.
We are women who take to the National radio instead of finding a Godly counsel from them that have walked in the path or the pain and come out victorious.
We are women who have lacked discernment, no wonder we can afford to tell our problems to everyone without asking God, “will this person help me? ”
We have been competitors instead of embracing the unique tender hearts that the Lord placed in us for that intricate yet precise balance needed in our families.
I see women taking their family issues to Facebook, Twitter and radio talk shows and it saddens my heart.
Women call their husbands names and rant out, in broad daylight.
Where did the discreet woman go to?
What happened to running to Christ instead of running people?
What happened to looking up unto the heavens from where our help comes from?
We “slay” more than we pray!
Trying to slay men instead of slaying the devil! The real thief of our Godly marriage.
It’s becomes worse because instead of bearing, we plot to kill our husbands! If you have seen the news lately, that’s the trend with the modern women.
I know what happened! Modernization, female emancipation, female liberalization and things like that which are of zero help to our marriages.
Mrs., you think exposing your husband’s weaknesses will change him?
In fact it gives him more airplay to be hardheaded and a greater rift will be created in your marriage.
He won’t be sorry because you have exposed him.
He did you wrong, but it’s not in your purview to expose him.
Oh, that is so unwise of you. Find someone to talk to, to walk with and pray with you. Find a godly woman at that.
If you are a woman, find another woman I insist – not another man who will caress your emotions just because Mr X didn’t treat you right.
The Bible calls it foolishness.
Yes we have become foolish!
I will say it again, you want your hubby to be better, seek his maker.
Seek his “manufacturer!”
Let God mold him. Your work is to shield him, and pray for him. Like really pray.
Yes tell God how annoying and stupid he is.
God isn’t surprised and won’t be. He won’t gossip you either!
Of course there are circumstances that are life threatening like physical abuse, and at that time, you can seek counsel, engage a Godly couple as you pray and shield your marriage.
(Sometimes separation brings healing. So you may opt to stay apart until a clear path is cut)
Don’t expose your husband just because he is lost his job, and suddenly you are announcing, and chest thumping to the whole of world how much of a provider you are.
Agape love safeguards your spouse from anything and everything.
As you bear, you endure the time, knowing that God is working.
Unfortunately, we want everything quick.
Of course God is God, He can change things overnight, but He is a God who says “wait on me.”
Waiting is HIS RULE, NOT THE EXCEPTION!
Wait for your Boaz, you don’t need to settle for anyone.
Wait for the “bone of your bones” Mr. She doesn’t need to manipulate you.
Wait for the child you so want – the child of your vows will come.
Wait for the job, you don’t need a “sponsor.”
Love has “each other’s back.” It is not nit-picky or critical of others, instead, it believes, and never quits. Love endures.
When all is said and done, Love in simple terms means this:
Love puts up with a lot – it is patient.
Love is predisposed to help without being requested – it is kind.
Love does not feel bad when others are prospering, more so your spouse – it’s not envious.
Love does not feel like it is better than others – it doesn’t brag.
Love always seeks to do those “little things” for each other – it is not rude.
Love puts your spouse’s interest first – It’s not selfish. THE SELF is dead in love.
Love is not easy provoked into anger and outbursts just because your spouse has done something you don’t like, instead, it controls itself, and waits for the right time to convey any misunderstanding.
Even after being wronged, love forgives and keeps no record of the past wrongs.
It enjoys growth through being told the truth, it doesn’t rejoice when a brother or sister goes the wrong way.
Love shields your spouse from external pressure, it confines each other in the beauty of the “WE” bubble.
Love is not critical, instead it builds, it trusts, and always finds a way of never quitting.
Love conceals each other’s weaknesses, and motivates the strengths.
Love perseveres and hopes for a better future. It hopes in God, it hopes in each other.
Love puts the other first, and gives up it’s own for the other. It never gives up!
Love never fails.
GOD BLESS ALL MARRIAGES.