She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
SHE WILL…meaning it’s in the future and it’s inevitable!
When she does him well today, she will still do well to him tomorrow and the day after! It never ends! It is perpetual.
She is a wife who brings the husband joy and happiness. She is the SOURCE of all the good things he has in his life.
She goes about her everyday life thinking of ways to please the husband and in no way does she think of harming him whether accidentally or knowingly.
Of course she is not perfect, but she is a prudent wife, with prudent endearments.
When I think about this verse I find myself constantly pondering, asking myself “Am I good to my husband?”
If you are good to your husband, you will show him love even when he least desires.
A good wife will be careful when she speaks, gentle, being full of grace, with no accusatory bickering and no criticism. A good wife accommodates her husband, she doesn’t push her requests or ideas down his throat. She waits then acts.
Her actions are full of wisdom. She supports his vision and his ways.
She goes about thinking how she will make the husbands life easier and comfortable, and she enjoys doing the mundane things for her husband.
Last year, on the social media, I saw a woman who had been supported by her husband through her PhD degree, kneel before him to say thank you. As usual, most women, especially the bitter women, took to the social media to accuse her of acting “weak”, “small”.
Some woman even said educated woman shouldn’t portray “traditional” ways that spelt out that a woman’s place in in the “kitchen” or “below the man!”
I was saddened, but more saddened by the level of arrogance some women have and still hope to keep happy marriages. I am not talking of subservient ways! Am talking of a woman who has learnt of ways to be good to her man!
If kneeling down was her way to show the man that she appreciates him, so be it!
If cooking is the way, so be it!
If buying him a new shirt or washing his feet will give you a mileage in your marriage, so be it! Anything that will spell “good” to your husband!
We are so good in criticizing those who do some things that seem “not okay” to us, yet the problem are not those things, the problem is us.
You don’t call your husband, so if another woman calls, she’s not independent.
You don’t praise your husband, so if another woman praises hers, she’s showing off.
You don’t submit to your husband, so if another woman submits, she’s weak.
If you find yourself getting agitated by some actions women do for their husbands and you don’t, the problem is clearly on your side. The problem mirrors you – your issue.
We have not learnt to be good, we are critics, full of jealousy and spend so much time gossiping, rather than learning.
The older women used to teach the young ladies to be good to their husbands and please them, why?
They knew the value. Then came the soap operas and the “sponsors” who teach you to get, get and be self-entitled. The gospel of giving and sacrificially giving like Christ is christened “traditional”, “backward” and weak.
The benefit of being good to your husband supersedes anything else in the world. If you treat your husband like a king, he will treat you like queen, and more!
Turn your complaints into praise!
You will not need to keep track of your husband because he will be constantly drawn to you!
Men are drawn to praise and there are ways you can be good to your husband. There are ways you can “deal bountifully” to your husband.
•Admire his ways, his work, his agility, his physique.
•Treat him as the only one.
•Make him dinner, pack his lunch and his fruits.
•Call him during the day to know how he is faring on.
•Encourage him in his projects, do not talk him down or talk him out of it for your own selfish gains.
•Small notes in his bag, his wallet, always work magic.
•Create an oasis in your home. Make him miss home and miss you.
•Be a gentle lady to him, without inflammatory bickering.
There are so many ways you can be good to your man! Read HIS DIET!
Above all a Proverbs 31 woman knows that she submits unto the husband as unto the Lord. She loves the husband as she would love the Lord.
She attends to him as unto the Lord.
If you are a wife? Are good to your husband? In what ways are you good to him? A good woman is given to him (the husband) all the days of her life, “for better or for worse, in health or sickness, for richer or poorer.”
Not when she feels like, not when her moods are okay, not when “auntie red” has not visited, not when she gets a treat and decides to reciprocate, it is in all the days of her life.
As a result of his wisdom, her whole family prospers!
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Submission is not an act of weakness, but an act of strength. That you can follow the lead of another, your husband, with the same zeal, strength and humility as you would, when going it all alone.
Let us be good to our men! All they need is love!