In Reflections of My Soul

WE BELIEVE…

When I started this blog, I only had a burden and a husband who was ready enough and crazy enough to tell me, “Hunnie, you need to tell someone all this (looking at my articles) out there, even if it is just one person!

I began, and I have been writing whatever the Lord presses in my heart to write.

My greatest burden is to the youth. The guys at crossroads about relationships, the guys dating and the ones married. I have been there, done that and trust me, all is vanity except being in the Lord.

I have not been married for so many years, but I have had the greatest crash program of my life. I tell my hubby, probably it’s because the Lord knows his kind of job.

Sometimes I might miss him for a few months while “normal” marriages have the hubby right there, every evening.

So what does God do? He made sure that His promise to me is true. He has taken me through lessons that many tell me took 5,6,10 years of marriage to learn.

The Lord’s crash program isn’t easy. You are forced to grow faster and you quit being a baby earlier than anticipated.

To all the single ladies and men out there, it is worth the wait. It is worth waiting for your Ruth. Mr, there is no need of chasing after the wind.

Beauty is vain.

Soon, our faces start getting wrinkled up, and if your focus was on “Oh she is so beautiful, her hips, her boobs, bla bla bla, you are in for a rude shock.

It is worth waiting for your ‘Boaz’ Miss. Sporadic dating never takes you anywhere!

He treats you so bad, yet you cling on in the name on Love? Or you don’t want to be alone! He shifts your course from the path of Christ, but because he is ‘good’ you go on with the relationship.

It is worth waiting for a man from the Lord’s throne. You will avoid a lot of heartache.

He needs to be changed by the Lord first.

You cannot change him. He needs to make a decision.

The unfortunate bit with ladies, is that we think because you ‘feel’ the guy, he feels you too with the same intensity.

Let me tell you something. For a man, HE NEEDS TO DECIDE. DECISION PRECEDES FEELINGS!

Otherwise if he doesn’t decide to love you, he will keep flirting, he will keep texting any other lady out there, and he will keep ogling at every bum in town.

A MAN DECIDES TO LOVE. For us, it’s almost automatic. We love with our head, heart and every internal organ, and it is okay, God made us so.

So miss, don’t jump into bed thinking you will keep him because you have given yourself to him.

SEX AND EMOTIONS ARE TWO SEPARATE ENTITIES IN MEN! Sex is not tied to their emotions, until he decides. For us, the two cannot be separated.

It is worth waiting for a man from the Lord. A man who will go to your parents and ask for your hand in marriage. A man who will decide to commit. A DECISIVE MAN!

Then comes marriage, and you realize, that the fiery butterflies cannot suffice to keep you going.

There has to be more. There has to be sacrifice, the self has to die, there has to be agape love which is NOT contingent upon reciprocity. There has to be trust, trusting your man to handle issues.

You have to give up the ‘Miss independent’ speech and submit, feminism won’t make your marriage work.

Yapping will make him retreat to the corner since you are so alike with a leaking faucet!

There has to be admiration, assurance and more re-assurance, there has to be more than ‘I love you’.

Your actions should make a much louder noise than your speech.

You realize that you cannot control everything; you need the Lord to intervene in situations and circumstances.

Your knees become your best friend; because only in prayers do we win battles waged against marriage.

You realize you need to keep learning and improving yourself and you can never say “I know everything!”

Every couple has a lot to learn everyday in their marriage and from others.

After all is said and done, you need to hold the hand of the others coming after you, and they can hold the hands of the rest coming after them.

You need people who will tell you the truth no matter how hurtful it is! You need friend who will tell you, “If you walk this path, you will fall! Walk that way!”

You need accountability partners, you need people who pray with you and for you and are happy in your victories not envious or jealous when things are going on well with you!

Outgrow any bad choices, outgrow friends who derail you, outgrow relationships which cut you from Christ! CUT OFF!

We believe you can be single and wait on the Lord.

We believe you can get a husband without needing to expose yourself!

We believe that a young man can wait on the Lord and wait for his wedding night! No matter how “traditional” it seems.

We believe you can date without compromising your salvation!

We believe the only way to make your relationship solid is go back to the basics, the word of the Lord and let it be your reference point!

We believe that there is more to marriage! Marriage works! Marriage is fun! Marriage is God ordained and at the end of the day, whether God decides to bless you with children or not, marriage is complete with just the two of you! Children are gifts! Wait on the Lord!

At the end of the day, it should bring glory and honor unto him.

Be part of this! Lets walk together to bring glory back to our marriages and say, MARRIAGE WORKS!

BILA CHRIST, BILA LIFE, BILA LOVE!(Without Christ, you are without life and love!)

Christ is ALL IN ALL!

#marriageworks #Godspeed

 

 

 

 

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3 Comments

  1. Bernice Muriithi
    2 years ago

    I agree with you Mary, You see when you are single you can’t see the other side and no wonder you need someone to tell you. It is saddening to see people leave Christ for either a woman or a man. All this is because of blindness and the only way to come out of blindness is to hold the hand of the one who is seeing.

    Dating and especially in churches has become really defiling. People have compromised standards too much just because they want to get married. God is one, by this I mean you cannot compromise his standards to get married, then ask him to be in your marriage! and by the way you need him more when married than when you are not, why? because now you have a life on another on your hands.

    As I read you article Mary I felt the need to emphasis sexual purity before marriage. That is the way God designed and not fashion, trend, or ain thing is going to change that. You need to obey God before you get married if you want him to be with you in your marriage.

    One last thing Mary that you brought out, When God created us he gave us all we need for life, we didnt choose which family, tribe or colour to be born in, he chose for us. Physical beauty is just for a time and so young men you cant make a decision on who to marry based on her looks or shape of body for all that will go away with time. Young women you cant make a decision on who to marry based on their cash or looks, wealth has wings and not all who are wealthy have good marriages.

    Thanks Mary keep on telling us

    Bernice

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  2. Patience
    2 years ago

    Amen to waiting and TRUSTING the Lord!

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  3. Annette Nyongesa
    2 years ago

    Very nice article.God bless you gal

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