So I read someone or some people on the social media someone, or some people dot want to participate the “Love your spouse challenge because of reasons only best known to them.
If you didn’t participate, it is okay, if you still don’t want to, it’s still okay…but let me ask a very simple question…would you rather see the unhappy us?
I mean, the radio is filled with negative talk, the TV news the same. If it’s not Mwende, Ann, Wairimu, who was hurt by the husband, it’s another couple from Nairobi or another county. Is that what you would rather see? Is that what will build you?
The challenge was just to showcase happiness, nothing so hard with it. Why are people so drawn to the dark side of everything?
Of course we pull each others hair, I let my husband down, and he pisses me off, but marriage isn’t about dwelling on the negative side of it, but moving past it, being strong and wiser, every day.
Marriage is not perfection. the pictures don’t depict perfection, but a couple who have chosen to stick together despite all odds.
A couple who never quit on each other. A couple who can still face the world and smile, knowing that tomorrow will be better.
Would you rather see how we fight with my hubby? How he looks at me sternly and I how hold my hands at akimbo? What value would it add to you? At the end of the day, its value we look for, that you can see me, and say, I want to be all that and more, and make your marriage work.
I mean, if I saw my parents ugly side of marriage, I would never have wanted to walk down that aisle, but I remember mama always telling me, marriage is beautiful, no matter the challenges!
Everything has challenges! Would you rather be known in the office as the officer who is yelled at daily, or the one who was recognized even once for the achievement(s) you made?
We have bad days, but I don’t want to be that lady who constantly has to linger at the bad side of marriage.
I will never be and I refuse to be sucked into that void.
I would rather see the sunshine and my husband has taught me that ever since I met him.
He is one positive man, whether things go south or not. He still holds me and yet I have angered him.
He still says “I Love you” after an argument and I would rather pray first because my pride is too thick!
Who is the bigger man at the end? He is! He has taught me the meaning of moving on past disappointments! So why would I waste that precious lesson?
So why waste my time on negative energy following through me all in the name of “marriage is not perfect”. Nothing is DUUUUHHHH!!!
So excuse me for saying marriage works! Excuse me, but I will continue to show off my hubby come rain come sunshine!
Excuse me but I won’t focus on …”we fought last night”…”I made a wrong judgment call”…”My hubby pissed me off”.
How would life be if you had to dwell on your dark side, everyday because “life is not so perfect?” How drained would you be?
I mean, life is disappointing, at every stage, but you don’t dwell there. You shake the dust off and rise again.
God doesn’t encourage negativity either. He says that HIS MERCIES ARE NEW EVERY MORNING, AND HIS FAITHFULNESS RUNS FROM GENERATION TO GENERATION!
That is the God we serve!
I won’t show you that, I will tell you to wake up every day with a renewed energy to smile and tell your husband or wife you love them!
I will tell you to scream on top of any mountain that marriage works and it will continue to work!
I will tell you to stop being so negative about marriage, and smile at every opportunity you have to hold your beloveds hand!
I will tell you to celebrate your victories and your storms!
Celebrate your marriage! No matter how it is, remind yourself that you love your spouse!
Let the spouse challenge continue!