As I sit in the coffee house this evening, my hubby ordering us some tea, my mind wonders around….
I being to count my blessings, as say “Thank you to God for your goodness and faithfulness to me and to us as a family.”
I can’t help myself think of this… Have I been thankful enough to my husband?
So I quickly go to Whatsapp and begin to write everything I can think about that he has done for me…big or small… And send him (Yes he is sited across the table).
The list is huge I can’t believe it!
He looks at it and pulls an “awwwweeee”! It sounds funny to me, but he is so grateful.
Well, It was unexpected! So 100 points to me! yeeeyyyy!
All this he has done in one year and I bet there might have been others I forgot.
He has been a provider, a protector, my confidant, my best friend. He has pushed me to be better in every area of my life, mediocrity is not on his vocabulary. He has challenged me, taken care of me when sick and when so well…
I thought of the many times he has put me first and sacrificed his resources for me…
I couldn’t help cry… Why? I wasn’t sure if I had said thank you enough.
We are human and our hearts wane.
We focus so much on what someone hasn’t done rather than what they have already given us.
A wife will focus on the fact that the husband forgot to bring her the shopping she asked for, yet the previous day, he bought her a huge bouquet of flowers!
A husband will focus on the quick fix meal the wife prepared, yet she broke her back the previous day preparing a gourmet meal for the hubby!
We quickly forget what someone has done for us.
We forget the sacrifices and are quick to point fingers and call attention to each other’s deficiencies.
We forget to count our blessings and instead blame God for not having a husband, a wife, a kid, a good job, a car, money, fame, whatever we seem to fall short to…
We forget to see the little things that He has done in our life.
We forget to enjoy everyday moments and focus on what we don’t have.
How many of you, married or in a relationship, do say thank you to your spouses, fiancé or fiancées?
How many take time to just write a note to thank their husbands for working so late in the night to provide? Instead we are filled with thoughts of, “He must be seeing another woman?”
Negative thoughts bear negative reactions. He comes home tired, and you cannot welcome him, instead you turn the judge, the prosecutor, and the jury.
You ask unending questions, and the man hasn’t even breathed out!
You turn accusatory, breath out fire, break him, turn him up-side down, not even a single word of encouragement comes from you!
As much as he would have communicated, said he will be late, bla bla bla… I often have a problem with us ladies because we break our own marriages then say, he started it.
The bible has everyday answer for our everyday life.
The woman builds her house and with her her hands, the foolish one destroys it!
Another one, your actions as a wife can bring a man closer to God or not.
You need to ask for wisdom to build your marriage…
Catch that fox of ungratefulness!
Begin to praise your husband for anything small he does.
Say thank you for clearing the table, remembering to buy some steak.
Thank him for checking up on you…thank him for surprising you…
Thank your wife for her ending sacrifices! Thank her for making supper for you for the 365 days!
Thank her for managing your home well and being a woman of integrity… You can never find something not be grateful for.
Train your heart to be grateful…
And speak positively to your marriage…
Go to the Lord and thank Him for giving you a wonderful husband or wife…
Positive words create a positive attitude in your life too!
So before the year ends, say thank you, and purpose to start next year with a thankful heart.
Merry Christmas and a Happy new year 2017! God bless you!
Let me have my cup a’ tea now!