When my husband first mentioned that he would love to be in the army, and he loved anything to do with combat, I first thought of it as a big joke.
My feelings towards military were sceptic and negative.
I had so much cynicism and I was sure I would be the loneliest woman on earth.
He was good with codes and I had thought of him as a programmer. Maybe an IT manager 5 years down.
I didn’t think of him as a military guy.
Well, 8 years down, I couldn’t be more wrong.
The package is definitely heavy, the load sometimes isn’t easy to carry but am happily married to him.
Well that goes to tell you that you could be with someone who could be thinking of career a change in future.
Or maybe their line of duty is or will be quite unpredictable.
So talk about it now.
Did it affect our plans? Yes it did. To a huge extent it did.
Do we occasionally shelve somethings since his work affects our plans – yes we do.
I had to accept that our lives will never be normal again.
The normal family curve and routines would never be ours, and we had to get our own line, our own curve.
So know each others dream job(s) before committing.
Probably they love traveling, will they accept to cut it off for a while for family first?
Know their career plans and what would they do if the job gets overly demanding.
Ask each other this:
What is your career plan?
Can you shelve career progression for family?
How often would you travel away?
Will you as a husband, be able to cater for your children if your wife gets a job that requires her to be away often?
Can you shelve your individual plans for your wife/husband – each other depending on whose job is demanding?
How will you sustain a family?
How often will you see each other if you have to travel?
Can you invest in other modes of communication for instance this Skype? Viber ? Hangouts, ooVoo etc.
Know each others career paths before committing.