There is nothing more that I delight in than being able to serve the Lord together with my husband. Nothing makes my heart suppler and eyes teary, than seeing my husband lift up his hands in the presence of the Lord and worshiping him.
Looking back at our journey and growth in marriage, there is really nothing much I can say apart from, “It is God”, “It will still be God”,” It will ever be God. ”
My life, my worth, my all belongs to Christ. I cannot think of anything else outside that sphere. . . there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24
Our orbit revolves around the Lord.
While at it, I know of so many people who are or have been in a state of waiting on the Lord for a spouse, that they missed to “catch” God’s purpose in their season of singleness.
They run away from the season of gathering, are aloof, bury or refuse to work on their talents, and in turn have nothing to give to their spouses in marriage.
They run away from the state of singleness, and happily join each other in marriage, all in a bid to find their own definition of happiness, glory, fulfillment and completion in the arms of each other – but soon find out that happiness in marriage is only a derivative.
A derivative of righteousness, when the SELF dies and gives way to God’s will.
Like many, they fail to realize that marriage is for the glory of the Lord. Happiness is only found when grace abounds.
It’s a byproduct of grace that is freely given to your spouse without measuring how often or how many times you give.
What am trying to say is that marriage(s), when all is said and done, it’s about grace and forgiveness. It’s about living it out all for glory of the Lord. It is for his glory. For him!
You cannot look at your spouse and love them without looking through the eyes of grace. We are way too imperfect.
But grace makes all beautiful. But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace toward me was not in vain. On the contrary, I worked harder than any of them, though it was not I, but the grace of God that is with me. (1st Corinthians 15:20)
God the father looks at us and sees our faces marked, REDEEMED. He sees us through his son’s blood Jesus Christ. We cannot face God without having being sanctified.
His Glory will be enough to blind us. But if we come to His throne of mercy boldly, then there is something bigger than just our pretty faces.
It’s the blood of Jesus Christ.
If it’s not grace, then our relationship to Christ could never hold water. We are way too fallible. And we would be struggling to live by a set of moral code of conduct. But his grace sustains us. We live by grace. He sustains us by His grace. Nothing exists without him grace, and so marriage too stands by His grace.
All is for his glory. All Was created to glorify him. Isaiah 43:7. That His beauty and excellence of his manifold perfections in marriage will be seen by all.
Unfortunately, we miss that HUGE POINT.
We get married and think, this is it. Marriage is for us. Marriage is for me. To be happy, have fun, enjoy, make babies, get a house, and grow old.
Yes, that is all alright and in order – since it’s in our plans, but God’s view, His canvas is far too infinite than our human thoughts.
We want people to see us, instead of seeing the God of marriage.
On our own, we cannot love our spouses because of our own selfishness. We are way too self-absorbed and look at each other expecting perfection instead of giving grace.
Marriage is for His glory. It exists to bring God’s love into reality, the truth about God and his wondrous deeds of sacrificing His own son, and Christ laying down His life, for a bride who did not deserve anything less than damnation.
We miss the point when we think that we can exclude God from the equation of marriage and yet HE IS THE AUTHOR. HE IS THE PERFECTOR.
He’s not a rival, He’s the orchestrator.
He’s not in the marginal, He’s the core.
He’s not insignificant, He’s significant.
He’s no mere actor, He’s the script writer and the director.
He’s not in the peripheral, He’s unquestionably God.
Until we understand that about God, and what He had in mind when he created marriage, then we will keep battling with earthly ideas, idiosyncrasies and educated guesses on how spouses should act towards each other in marriage.
We demand perfection from each other.
We demand to be loved.
We demand respect…yet…God’s design for marriage is far too pure than that.
We will be conformed to the “standards of the world ” instead of our minds being transformed by the renewal of Christ.
If we conform to the worldly patterns, then we not will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will – His will that marriage should be for his glory.
Colossians 1:16 says, “By [Christ] all things were created, in heaven and on earth . . . all things were created through him and for him“. For him meaning, for his glory, for his pleasure, for his good, for his will.
Knowing God and valuing the Lord above all things, your marriage and your spouse included, is the key to living marriage to the glory of God. God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in him. Don’t mistake this by saying that you should neglect your spouse. No.
It’s true more so in marriage: If Christ becomes our all in all, our source of strength and power, devoted and loving him with all our heart, mind, strength, and soul then husbands will love like Christ, and wives will submit like the bride of Christ, the church. No one will demand anything. For demands create bondage instead of intimacy.
Ephesians 5:22–25 clearly explains that husbands take their cues of headship, leadership and love from Christ, and wives take their cues of submission, encouragement and love from the devotion of the church to Christ. The church for whom he died for.
Both of these complement each other as sacrificial acts of love — to lead, and to submit, and these cannot be sustainable, can never work out, can never complement without having all the satisfaction in Christ.
How does marriage exude the glory of the Lord?
The glory of the Lord shines in our marriages when both spouses, fulfill their God given roles. Roles that are stirred from within, and are moved by intimacy rather than mechanical obedience.
The glory of the Lord shines when a man does faithfully what God created him to do in marriage. God intended this for us— the man to be a servant leader like Christ, to love, cherish and nourish the wife.
The wife exudes the glory of Christ when she invites her husband to her world as an advocate and follower of his leadership. She encourages him, prays for him, prefers him and chooses him above and beyond all others.
When those godly roles are lived out, the glory of God’s beauty and infinite wisdom in Christ is displayed to the world.
But far beyond the surface, the glory of the Lord is exuded and revealed in our marriages, when GOD BECOMES THE CORE and marriage becomes secondary to the love we have for Him.
That love permeates into our marriages, giving us the grace to forbear, forgive and love our imperfect spouses. God’s grace helps you to love your wife, and the same grace will help us submit to our imperfect husbands.
The result is having a marriage for His glory. A marriage for his glory will be seen if our hearts delight in the Lord more than in each other. He in turn directs our paths for we will not rely on our own understanding.