23. Desire to participate in activities with others, more so, without any trace of you.
“It’s a man’s thing” – while the rest bring their wives on board.
“I think you should take care of the home instead of always wanting to follow me around.”
” Women should take care of the family, it’s biblical.”
“I have fellowship then Bible study tonight.”
“He can come home whenever he wants to, I don’t care. “
“She will plan herself, am not baby sitting a grown woman.”
No more rushing home to be with your love.
No sadness when separating.
No more endearments.
No more anticipating each others needs or pain.
25. Found a new “drug!”
Going out without you and staying out too late without considering you.
“Am going out! I told you today I will be out today!”
Picking up a habit he had quit or never had before, say drinking, always on the internet, hang on to the television too much with no regard of your presence, or even pornography.
Question: “Who was on the phone?” Answer: “Not anyone important.” “ It was the wrong number.”
Question: “What was in that envelope?” Answer: “It was delivered to
the wrong address.”
“Don’t take my phone! It’s private!”
“Why are you asking too many questions, you can’t take what am telling you?”
An urge to snoop through all your spouses documents, call logs and messages.
27. Unwillingness to discuss, communicate, or resolve conflicts in marriage.
“I am just under too much pressure right now to discuss it. Maybe later.” – When later comes, “I am still angry, don’t push me!”
“Nothing is wrong. There is nothing to discuss. Why do we have to debate everything?”
“Why can’t we just drop it?”
“There is nothing more to talk about.”
“I don’t want to talk about it!”
“You are so annoying!”
“You are good for nothing!”
“You need to shut up when am talking!”
Verbal abuse, Psychological manipulation, erratic anger, emotional intentional detachment, physical abuse that might escalate to battering.
30. YOU SIMPLY STOP WORKING MARRIAGE OUT!
When you simply stop working out your marriage, then everything goes down the drain.
You stop calling.
You stop texting.
You stop knowing how each others day was.
You shift your attention to something else.