4.THE POWER OF NURTURING.
As I watch my daughter as she breastfeeds, I can’t help but think about her life, 10, 20,30 years from now. Yes, I can’t help but wonder, “How will she be?”, “Who will she be?”, “What will be her career, and will it be her passion too?”
As those questions bombard me one by one, the biggest of them all hits me hard. “Will I have impacted her with the necessary tools to circumnavigate this hard terrain called ‘The world’?”
“Will I have left an indelible mark on her?” “Marks that point her to Christ and define her worth in Christ, for Christ?”
Ladies, we are called to nurture, and the power of nurturing is in us, its inherent, its unstoppable, its God given!
It’s quite sad that we have let the standards of the world get in us so much that those ‘laws’ have become the voices that we battle with daily – rather than conforming to Christ.
I mean, we have the power to encourage, to submit, to allure with the fragrance of Christ, and now, to nurture. Does that make you subservient? On the contrary, it makes you powerful! You are equipped.
2nd Timothy 3:16-17 says,
All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful for teaching the truth, rebuking error, correcting faults, and giving instruction for right living, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.
All scripture, every scripture, has a place in our lives. We cannot afford to conform to the standards of the world to anesthetize our infallibility. We all have to do our part regardless. Let’s call a spade a spade. If we need help, Christ is always there to uplift us through His word. Sometimes He will strike us with His rod, but His staff comforts us.
The Power of nurturing is such a unique ability, placed on us by the Lord since He laid down the foundations of this world. Out of God, came man, and out of man, came the woman and the woman, nurtures his seed and brings forth a living being.
Femininity, is all about nurturing. We have an innate desire to nurture and it’s by all means, God given. No woman, neglects her children unless under demonic influence.
We nurture relationships, we nurture others, we nurture our children.
- Nurturing goes beyond us.
Greet Rufus, chosen in the Lord; also his mother, who has been a mother to me as well.
Rufus’s mother, became a mother to Paul as well. She was not necessary his biological mother, but she was a spiritual mother. She was there for Paul too. Travailing in prayer for him, feeding him, listening to him – because of her power to nurture.
Nurturing goes beyond us. It’s not just for our household, but it out pours to others too – if you cultivate it.
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.
- Nurturing goes beyond our circumstances.
In 2nd Timothy 1:5
I remember your genuine faith, for you share the faith that first filled your grandmother Lois and your mother, Eunice. And I know that same faith continues strong in you. Paul the apostle speaks of Timothy’s nurturing mother and grandmother who were the influence of His godly life!
Need I say, Timothy’s father was a Greek who believed in gods and idols but with skillful wisdom, Eunice and Lois were able to bring up a boy, looking up to God, instead of the gods of his father!
How profound! It doesn’t matter if your husband is ungodly, unruly, not born again! You have the power to influence your children, even your son, to be more like Jesus! What the Lord requires of us is to take our rightful place back. The place of worship. The place where we rely on grace alone, knowing that He’s more than able to perfect us for His glory!
Nurturing is not spoiling a kid.
Nurturing is not bad mouthing your husband to your children, no matter how wrong he is.
Nurturing is not encouraging their bad behavior, leaving in fear of “they will hate me.”
Nurturing is tough love.
Nurturing is instructing in Godly wisdom.
Nurturing is setting in place boundaries for your children but still giving them the will and freedom to express themselves within those confines.
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
- Nurturing out pours from our families to others.
If you are a wife, your first ministry is your husband. Yes. He is your first assignment. You are his suitable helper. And that attitude of nurturing starts at home, your husband being your first attendee – your first witness of your nurturing power.
The power of nurturing works in tandem with the power of submission. You respond to your husband in understanding and love, cooperating with him and encouraging him in His God given abilities.
Nurturing does not compete. So you are not in that marriage to compete with him, impede his progress, but instead encourage him to be the best.
It’s not a head response.
It’s not a feeling(s) response.
It’s not a worldly response.
It’s a hearts response. A heart pummeled by Christ!
Why do I say so?
Because there are countless of times he will fail you. Enough times he will not be in your camp. A zillion of things he will do will irk you, so you have to rise up beyond the feelings. Again, if you are not ready to lay down the self, please don’t rush to get married. It’s not competition, it’s an attitude and heart’s preparation.
Christ said in Matthew 20:26
Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant,
You want to be great in your marriage, serve. The power of nurturing serves. It doesn’t seek out for itself, but seeks out for others. It’s not a lip-service it’s a heart’s service.
Don’t begin nurturing other men, yet you haven’t cultivated the same in your marriage. You cannot be praising a workmate so passionately and more than you praise your spouse. Nurture your marriage. Invest in it! Intentionally! Trust me, it will take you two, the rest of word is what my hubby and I call ERROR!
DO YOUR PART MRS! ERROR will ruin things for you if you tune your attention to them!
- Nurturing makes disciples of Christ!
We began talking to our child about Jesus long before we knew that we would conceive. Faith is calling those things that are not as though they were! Ladies, we have the power to influence our children to godly behavior and a right standing with God.
Take your children to church! Let them attend Sunday school and let the word of the Lord slowly begin to permeate in them!
In fact, teach them about Christ long before they even attend Sunday school! You are their first instructor in their life!
Look at Jochebed!
According to the Hebrew culture, children were weaned between 3-7 years! By 3 years, Moses had been impacted by his Mother Jochebed and did not forget his root and his God! The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob!
From the lips of children and infants you, Lord, have called forth your praise…!
Infants coo and we think that it’s just that! No! It’s praise to the Lord! What about a 2,3,4,5-year-old? Let us teach our children the ways of the Lord!
My son, keep your father’s commandment, and forsake not your mother’s teaching. Bind them on your heart always; tie them around your neck.
Train up a child in the ways of the Lord and when they will grow up, they will never depart from it. Nurture your children to be disciples of Jesus by showing them what that love looks like.
If you are married, your relationship with your husband will preach to them faster than your words.
Teach them what respecting authority means. Teach them reconciliation. Do not fight in their presence, do not argue before them.
If you are raising a child alone, you are still sufficient! God has bestowed upon you grace that’s enough to instill in that child the Lord’s precepts! You are enough! Let not the devil whisper to you and cower you from your mission of turning your children into men and women of valor!
No! Announce to the devil in broad daylight that you shall not flinch, shudder nor back down from your mission! You are exceptionally gifted.
- Nurture yourself!
It’s so easy as a woman to let yourself drown into the never ending responsibilities of life. You have a home to keep, a spouse to please, children to care for, a schedule to meet, a ministry to run, a business to keep. It’s a lot.
The mundane soon becomes a toil and a burden! We lose our charm and glow! Many times, too often, we get depleted as we nurture and give to others.
God knew that we are capable and it’s in us. We are perfect stewards. As the wheels keep spinning, do not forget yourself too!
Care about yourself too! Refresh yourself! Treat yourself and invest too in yourself. Find little things that give you joy and have a return of investment. Do you love spas? Go! Relaxing will definitely refill you enough to help you cover a couple of miles.
Go for a manicure, a pedicure. Get yourself some flowers, a nice dress, an amazing shade of lipstick, anything that could replenish you. God rested too, so take a nap. The utensils can wait for 1 hour or so!
But most of all, invest in quiet times with the Lord. I certainly have little time nowadays but my time with Christ is irreplaceable. He fills me up, gives me a word to rejuvenate me, and psyches me up for the next task.
Nurture in yourself a heart attuned to Christ. A heart that runs to the Lord for replenishment. Your body is the temple of the Holy spirit, so take care of yourself too!
For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.
Shun thoughts that are negative and critical. Subject every thought under the feet of Jesus. When the devil reminds you of your failures, remind him of the debt paid by Christ!
The battle of the mind is real! Resist it! Open your mouth in wisdom to them who need your help.
In conclusion, it’s only through the lenses of Christ that the true picture about us, our true power is revealed. If you see it through what the society says, you will think doing all this makes you weak, yet, it doesn’t.
The power of nurturing is magnificent! The goal is to bring others to grow in grace and in the knowledge of Christ! – 2nd Peter 3:18
Be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.
UNLEASH YOUR NURTURING POWER!