As cliché as the word sounds as loosely it’s always used, humility is the only way out of a standoff, more so in marriage. How many marriages have collapsed because neither of the spouses was humble enough to take the first step towards healing and reconciliation?
You see, years back, we never used to fight fair. When we came to a standoff, neither of us humble enough to take a back seat, apologize for the misunderstanding, and seek for reconciliation. Every fight ended the usual statement, “I am the right one!” Did taking hard stances against each other build us? No!
I was always grumpy and easily annoyed. My hubby was exhausted and drained. But the Lord taught us differently. Arrogance and pride are detestable before the Lord. The Bible encourages us to confess our sins to each other that we may be healed. James 5:16
Humility is a quality of the strongest at heart. Them that know they have the power to call attention to themselves but chose peace over self-importance and arrogance.
Humility seeks out, pride draws out.
God gives grace to the humble because the humble are hungry for grace. Wonderful freedom is found in the forest of humility. A marriage cannot work without humility. And most times it will take one of you to teach the other through your actions. Being unrelenting in your actions of grace more so when spurred into anger.
So you might as well admit your failures and enjoy the day. Humility creates relief. It is healthy because humility is honest. So before you begin answering each other back, take a humble posture. Apologize even if you did not do anything wrong – humility seeks out. You got frailties too, remember?
It doesn’t mean that you will not talk about the misunderstanding, but humility creates a feasible environment for vulnerability without the judgement card against each other.
Those who walk in pride he is able to humble. (Daniel 4:37). Those who walk in humility, God is able to use.