It’s easy for a man to lay back and sit easy when confronted by situations that he can’t understand….
Many men retract into their dens when at the face of calamity, uncertainty and threat!
Some men find an asylum in their caves where they can be comfortable and find pseudo peace.
By doing this, the man has unknowingly relinquished his role in the family and the society at large.
He is no longer in control of his emotions, drives, hungers, thirst and his destiny.
He is not a master of his own self.
Greed, lust, covetousness, competition, desire for dominance and power have become his daily dose of opium.
Constantly intoxicating himself.
To satisfy these, he lands into more problems, more debts, more foes, more regrets, more mouths to feed, more failures, more rejection and more dilapidation!
The family unit is no longer a source of strength, character molding, physical and spiritual nourishment, security and comfort because of this.
The man has gone AWOL!
Is there a way back?
Is there a way of regaining the initiative?
Can we redeem the lost opportunities?
Yes we can.
Every man can.
I am reminded of Jacob. He tricked Esau his brother with some red pottage, and snatched his (Esau) birthright and consequently his blessings.
Afterwards, he fled just like many men do.
He feared that his brother would kill him.
He ran to Padan Aram.
Hid there for a few decades and made a family.
But a time came when he had to confront his greatest undoing.
He had to go back home and reconcile with his brother.
It took much effort and meticulous planning.
To cut the long story short, he made peace with his past.
There comes a time when you need to make peace with God, yourself and man. A time when you shed off your pride and lay down your crowns and make peace with your spouse, children, and every responsibility you’ve run from.
The man needs to take the initiative to bridge the gap between himself and his wife, himself and his God, himself and his mission and purpose, himself and his family and himself and his destiny.
The man needs to truthfully confess and make amends for his wrongs.
The time for blame game is over.
It’s time to get out of your comfort zone and make peace with your spouse, it’s for your own good.
A family flourishes when there is peace and unity.
Reconciliation is inevitable. Its the only option.
The earlier you do it, the better for you and your family.
Marriage works but it’s work.
Work, work and more work.
It’s not for the faint hearted.
It’s not for weak.
It’s not for the selfish egocentric men.
It’s for the men who take the lead!!