Four monks decided to meditate silently without uttering a word for two weeks. By dusk on the first day, the candle began to flicker and then went out.
The first monk said, “Oh, no! The candle is out.”
The second monk said, “Aren’t we supposed to observe silence?”
The third monk said, “Why must you two break the silence?”
The fourth monk laughed and said, “Ha! I’m the only one who didn’t speak.
Anyone else like me? Who give a 1-hour presentation to their hubby’s on how “wrong” he was and how “he ought” to have acted, how “hurt” I felt, and how I “expected” to be treated.
I am still growing. Still a work in progress in lots of areas and one of it is my mouth! My mouth can run why lie. It was a major source of stress in our first year of marriage. I just couldn’t let an argument go! Well, the Lord has worked on me! Hard panel beatings!
Am learning to talk less, and say more in my marriage, more so to my John. You don’t need to really talk, more so when emotional and angry. There will be or might be lots of damage in your marriage simply because couldn’t keep quiet – for just a few minutes.
I have come to appreciate and see the value and the wisdom that comes from being quiet. The talkative parrot is shut up in a cage. Other birds, without speech, fly freely about.
I still give my presentations, in a nicer way though!
Affirm him even when he’s been dumb!
Use words like “I felt hurt by your comment”. “I still love you though you aggrieved me in a, b, c”. “You are an awesome husband, though I felt disappointed when you failed to take care of a, b, c”. Husbands, get that! They don’t get the screams and shouts and being a nag!