DAY 4: LISTEN TO HIM
D.I.Y: Ask him how his day has been. Listen to his heart too – if he’s tired, give him time to decompress. Ask him if he needs anything – snacks, a meal, watch anything.
Go point: Be attentive, to his voice, tone variations and body language.
If you are as outspoken, forthright or bubbly as me, you know very well that it’s easy to dominate a conversation. We can talk the whole day and never get tired. We make our points known, we hold onto our convictions with a tight brace, but what happens is that as we talk and release our stresses onto our husbands, chances are that we forget that they need to be listened to.
Worse, is when we have a conflicting opinion(s). Most of us, lash out. Rarely do we listen to understand. We talk to be understood. It’s not wrong to talk, but there is danger is drowning your spouse in your demands, rather than being attentive. That’s when we miss our husbands. Probably his body just says, “hold me, am tired”, and all you want is to be heard.
Today, let’s listen to our husbands. Not just their verbal communication, but their voice variations and more so, their unspoken words. Their silent words, their body language. You will not say that “my husband doesn’t open up”, because, you will have tuned yourself to him.
They talk – but we never listen.
Let’s listen in today, and may this mark the beginning of a steady growth towards listening. Switch off the TV, put the kids to bed, the house chores can wait for 30 minutes, put down the phone. Face him and listen. Listen to understand.
VERSE OF THE DAY: James 1:19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.
Am here again at your throne. This time Lord, I need you to teach me how to listen. Your Word says that the sheep listen to your voice and they follow you – for you are the Good Shepherd. I am listening to you Lord.
Teach me to listen to my husband too. Teach me to read beyond what he simply articulates with his mouth. Teach me to know what he silently yearns for by observing his mannerisms and acts.
Teach me to listen to his needs and attend to them accordingly. I cannot do it by my own strength. I need you Lord to walk with me. I need you Lord to fill me with wisdom.
In Jesus name I pray.