DAY 15: PRAY FOR HIM
D.I.Y: Write a prayer down that pours your heart out to Christ concerning your husband and send it to him. Remember, it’s a prayer, not a list of demands.
Go point: Be open to Christ, He understands.
Prayer is not a means of gaining control over your husband. It is not a means to an end, rather than the end itself. It is a means of relinquishing control over your husband – in whichever means you might have been using– manipulating, withdrawing, silent control, bickering etc. – and asking God to shape him into the man GOD, HE wants him to be.
If he is shaped by God, most definitely he will be a perfect fit for you.
Secondly, prayer changes our perspective even if circumstances may not change. Sometime we go to God with a ransom bid – as if prayer should instantaneously work “or else”. Of course God is not man, He can turn your husband around in the blink of an eye, but sometimes, most times, He doesn’t.
He works with His pace. His pace cuts both sides. Prayer changes you too as you give the control keys to God.
God shapes and molds, your part as a wife, is to pray and intercede for your husband. James 4:3 warns us against praying with wrong motives at heart. So check the reasons as to why you go before the Lord in prayer, more so for your husband.
What motivates you? Are you motivated by the relationship you desire for him to have with Christ, or do you want him to be good husband to show yourself off? Yes, we desire stupendous marriages and godly husbands, but your inclination should be towards his relationship with Christ. The rest are just pecks that come with having his heart in the right place – in Christ!
Prayer is not for the purpose of getting your husband to do what you want him to do when you want him to do it. It’s not for twisting God’s arm and convincing Him to do your bidding. He has all your best interest at heart and invites you to be partaker in molding your husband to be His masterpiece.
Your role is not to manipulate, nag, control, bicker, cajole but to love him and serve him as unto the Lord. As you pray, God aligns your desires, longings, wishes, and thinking with His.
It is the only perfect channel that God uses to change you and change him.
VERSE OF THE DAY: 1 John 5:14 –This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us.
I am at your feet Jesus, knowing that you hear my prayer and supplication. I know many times I have come to you selfishly, asking you to change so many things in my husband, yet I know I need that same saving Grace. Forgive me Lord.
Today, I release my husband to you. I know that no human power can change Him from within save for you Lord. I give him to you. I surrender him to you. Use him, mold him, chisel out every rough edge and stain of sin.
Use him Lord for your service. I know when you mold him, he will be perfect for me. I give up every control, manipulation and nagging.
I ask YOU Holy spirit to penetrate every facet of his life. Lord he needs you more than he needs me. So Lord, help me not make him an idol but serve him as unto you Lord. Together, help us accomplish your will and purpose for us in this world, for your glory!
In Jesus name I pray.