Action: Be Present
Launchpad: The world is deficient of present husband and fathers. This has resulted to wives and mothers covering up for the lost man.
Moreso, there’s a host of children who are suffering from father’s complex aka Daddy Issues.
The man is trapped in the search for his identity in his job, social status and other inconsequential gains. Many a men are lost in business, trying build empires and sadly, castles made of sand.
Many of us have forgotten the first calling of a husband – to love his wife and live with her in understanding together with teaching the children the way they should go.
As long as his wife is taking care of the household duties, he can go out there and make a name for himself and take the company to the next level, or so he tells himself. Oh, how he loves big mergers and to be on the cover of the business magazines. He loves exploring new ventures and technologies, working eighteen hours a day and having nothing left for his family.
He says he will and must go for the business summit in a far country, investment seminars are his second obsession.
Always busy, moving but not progressing.
Don’t get it twisted my friend, I am not insinuating that you should not pursue your goals and dreams. All I am saying is that after all is said and done, you will need that wife that you’ve left at home.
You will need that family that you left.
You will need to look at your kids and be proud of what they have become.
You will need a home.
But if you didn’t make your home comfortable, sorry for you. You will find a cold and desolate house.
With the current trends, it’s hard to find yourself devoting a lot of time at home unless you work at home or in close proximity.
I understand that.
But we need to be intentional in making time for our families, regardless of the situations.
You might be out of reach for some time due to work commitments, but you can still make time.
Your presence is highly needed by your family. It doesn’t have to be physical, but also emotionally and spiritual. I have seen men who are present physically and absent emotionally.
Be present emotionally by being the support system that your wife and kids will never miss. Call often. Video call often. Talk more. Listen the more. Offer that shoulder to lean on in hard times. Celebrate with her on her achievements.
Make it to the graduation of your kid. Be their number one fan and let them know that Daddy is proud of them. Remind them daily as far as it depends with you.
Plan for time to rest. A time to just be with your household. Who said that you have to go out and have a good time? Stay at home during the weekend and just bond with your family.
Bypass the club and get home early and help your kids do homework. Play with them, play more with your wife.
If your family treasury permits, plan for a holiday with no phones but a camera and mass storage device. Take lots of pictures together. Be present.
Switch off your phone or put it in silent mode when you get home.
Commit that time for your family.
It has innumerable returns.
Be concerned about the things of your wife.
Walk with her through the seasons.
If you know what is marginal propensity to consume, knowing about how your wife is feeling and what she wants won’t be a hard nut to crack.
Share your life with your family.
Create a social group on the platform of your choice. Share the love.
Be a constant in their lives.
This is what matters.
2 Cor 6:8; And God is able to make all grace abound toward you, that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may have an abundance for every good work.
Dear Lord, help me to make good use of every opportunity to be there for my family. May I redeem the time I have lost in chasing vane things of this world.
In Jesus name I pray.