I love being married to this man. I really do. Being married has been the best tool that Christ has used to chisel me for the continuous walk in the narrow road. It’s brought out my ugly side and forced me to come face to face with my deficiencies.
At the same time, it’s brought out the good work that God has put in me before the foundations of the earth were laid. But why lie, our marriage is high maintenance.
The cost has been enormous, it still skyrockets with each passing season.
For instance, parenting has a way of making you stick to a very predictable routine and predictability has a way of making you stuck in a rut.
True, we cannot complain and we never have. Our child is a blessing, but so is our marriage. So we have to be deliberate in making time for US. Not just to discuss about diapers and how she pulls my nipples when breastfeeding, but seriously talk about US.
How we are fairing on, what we are neglecting about each other, what we are obviously presuming about each other and a myriad of other things.
Our marriage is high maintenance but the fruits are worth every sweat.
When it comes to marriage, you have two choices.
You can cover a broken marriage to look good and pay a high price of pain, disappointment, and heartbreak, or, you can pay a high price of doing whatever the cost to have a thriving marriage.
Either way, you will pay a price. We have a beautiful marriage but it comes tagged “high price”.
We have to kill selfishness, heal from past hurts, set boundaries, disappoint people, (yes we say NO, NO, NO to many people, often) and allow God to work in our lives.
If you are willing to pay the price, you will experience a deep love, commitment, incredible happiness, and constant support with each other.