The day of death is better than the day of birth, Ecclesiastes 7:1 tells us so.
Someone may ask how the day of death could be better than the day of birth. It is paradoxical. But when a child is born, there is jubilation and loads of happiness. Everyone gathers around to see this new being and welcomes it with radiant smiles.
First forward to the time a loved one kicks the bucket. A heavy cloud of sorrow engulf the souls of those left behind.
But still, its better that day than the day of birth.
The reason is that no one chooses where he or she will be born. No one hand picks his parents or siblings. No one is consulted about how many aunties or uncles he may wish to have during his journey on earth.
You can’t choose where or when to be born.
That we live it to the Maker of all things, God. In His infinite wisdom, He created everything and was pleased. It was and still is GOOD!
But here’s the other part, we can choose where to go when we die. We can choose how to live here on earth. It’s all in our hands. Choice!
God gave us our parents and He gave them the pivotal role of bringing us up. We didn’t chose them, God did. Regardless of how it happened, He knew that they were capable of handling you! Right from infancy till you were out of their nest and away you flew.
They handled the delicate you when your backbone could not prop your 4 Kg body!
They took in all your tantrums and understood what you were saying when all could do was cry. They kept you warm and nurtured every bit of you. Handled your transitions through puberty and adolescence.
Now you are all grown up and most probably a parent too.
But I want you to ask yourself this question; Have you been honoring your parents? If you were to describe your relationship with your parents in one sentence, how would it look like?
What is the first feeling that comes into play when you think about your parents? Do you regard them with honor or treat them with contempt? By definition, to honor is to hold someone with great respect.
It is to revere, esteem, appreciate and think highly of someone. When the Bible tells us to Honor our parents, Deuteronomy 5:16, it means exactly this.
The least we can do to our parents is to honor them. They might have done mistakes, (they are human just like us) or given you a raw deal, but they are the parents that God gave us.
They might not have set the best example in matters to do with family and marriage, but they are our parents.
They might not have been involved in your rise from grass to grace, but they are your only parents.
Maybe they were the architects of your downfall. Yes, they are still your parents.
They might have been absent, insensitive or even abusive, but can you manufacture another set of mom and daddy? The Lord commands us to hold them with the highest regard, respect them and appreciate them.
You need them more than they need you! God placed them in your life for a purpose and a reason.
Sometimes I know its easier said than done, but it is very practical and so possible if you put a little effort.
In Ephesians 6:1-2, it is written; Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise.
When we were little children, we didn’t have a choice but to obey our parents in the Lord. We didn’t have an option because we were under their roof. We fed from their table and lived under their authority. Any form of disobedience would lead to all sorts of punishment, and of course a few whips on our little fleshy butts. God bless our parents for the lashes.
But now that we are old enough to make our own decisions and live under our own terms, what is left for us to do is to hold our parents with great respect and the highest regard.
This is what I would wish to get from our children when they are all grown up and mature enough to stand on their own two feet.
May the Lord help us!