In Marriage Matters, Our Journey, Reflections of My Soul

LINE 6: I LOVE AND RESPECT YOU BECAUSE…

I remember our titan clash with my husband on “what to invest in” like it was yesterday. I was never an enthusiastic cheerleader on his choices. He can tell you how I made him feel miserable about his career choice (but I learnt and was so repentant about it). Therein lies that danger of being too pushy and overbearing.

It’s easy to love him when all he says is yes, yes, yes to your demands.

It’s easy to love him when he’s at his best and hasn’t caused you any jitters regarding certain investment(s). It’s easy.

But what about when he cannot listen and is so rigid?

What about when he is obstinate and simply fixated to what he wants, rather than weighing in all choices presented to him?

I lacked wisdom on how to approach my husband in our earlier marriage days. I thought shouting a project down, watering it down, or being uninterested will make him see my point. Well, it costed us our peace and happiness for some time – and definitely a loss.

I have made that mistake in my marriage once. But then the Lord taught me again. Demonstrating respect to him, is as simple as articulating your counter opinion with grace, encouraging his endeavors as you pray that the Lord will reveal to him what might be the “blind spots.”

Works! I have never looked back.

Most husbands – even the most difficult ones – do listen to their wives who know “how to” address pertinent issues with grace and still regard them with honor – without making them feel as if they are skunks. It makes them feel respected. His deepest longing, dear wife, is to feel respected by the woman he has chosen to stand by till death does them part.

To be truly patient, gracious and gentle towards a husband who acts unloving or unbecoming is an altogether special assignment — one not only taught by Jesus, but modeled too.

He spent much of His time on earth with the not-so-popular people –the undeserving.

He touched the lepers. He granted dignity to the prostitute. He welcomed children and the tax collectors and those whom society rejected. Jesus modeled upside-down living and loving, and He urges us, as wives, to do the same.

When love lances out to the deep, it calms the tides of a marriage, it heals the broken places. It makes masterpieces out of the forgotten, it quietens the chaos. It unclutters the heart. But most of all, it changes what seems unchangeable.

Love becomes the emblem of a marriage, a force that no hatred can stand against, if one heart is willing to serve.

Does he want his way? Find your “how to” talk to him – be gracious and full of respect to him.

Does he want to buy an IPhone X while you have an old phone that screeches when its ringing? Find the gracious words on your lips to channel him back to you.

Instead of being so mad at him not “getting” your needs right, how about being that gracious teacher like Christ was.

The Bible says that His words are very near us. It is in our mouth and in our heart, so that we can do it- Deuteronomy 30:14.

God can teach you how to talk to your husband in whichever season you are in. He only needs us to die to ourselves that He might increase. Say it today, “Hunnie, I love and respect you because….”

Die again!

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Mary Munene

Totally sold out to Christ. Wife to my amazing John. Blessed to be a mother of a beautiful daughter. The Lord perfecting us in our daily walk! I love marriage in Christ! It's so divine!

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    Eva M
    4 months ago

    Wow amazing article! As wives we really have to sacrifice! And we have our God as strength! Amen!
    Thanks for the message!

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      Mary Munene
      4 months ago

      I know the Lord is able to keep us and mold us!

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