After a very fast and hard day, especially Johnny’s, he asked me out for a cup of tea. It’s always so refreshing to sit down with him and listen to him outpour his heart. I know its goof for us. Soon we were done, and off we went home.
As soon as we rang the doorbell, our daughter swung the door open with a huge smile. Her face was radiating. Suddenly she burst out a spontaneous song that was so sweet to our ears we couldn’t help but laugh.
With her baby talk, she sang, “u ca do e, u ca do e, u can do e too.” It took us a while to figure the song out, but we finally did. She was simply saying, “You can do it, you can do it, you can do it too!”– of course the logs on the IPAD gave us the hint.
As I listened to her, I watched my husband’s eyes glow with excitement as she kept directing him on what to do – his weary-self disappeared. He was so caught up in the moment that he forgot how extremely exhausted he was a few minutes ago.
She would say, “Daddy, do like this”, then followed on with her song, “u ca do e, u ca do e, u can do e too.”
It was not only perfect, but a holy moment. The moment where you behold the embodiment of pure and untainted love between a father and a child.
Does God feel this way when He knocks at the door of my heart, and I am overly excited by His presence? Is this what He means by delighting in Him? Clearly, our daughter was enthralled by her daddy’s funny antics.
But what drew my attention more, was the song. I felt as if it spoke with whispers that Johnny’s soul drew in. His heart was made mellow and so were his actions to a point of throwing care to the win and simply enjoy a 2-year-old company. No wonder the Lord asks us to have a childlike faith – such innocence, such purity.
“You can do it!” those were the words that soothed his heart.
I began to have my monologue. My heart urging me to an urgent introspection. “Do I tell Johnny that he can do it?” “Am I this soothing?” “Does he feel my presence? Does he feel home when with me? Does all stand still when am with him?”
I was challenged by my daughter. She might never know, but in those few moments, God used her to remind me of my purpose in my husband’s life. I should be his greatest encourager, far greater than anyone else.
My presence should be home to him. I should be his calm amidst the chaos. Quench his thirst, lavish him with every good thing – for God made me capable of being his helper.
Song of Solomon reminds me of the great love between a man and his wife. The kind of love that causes him to say, Oh, how beautiful you are! How pleasing, my love, how full of delights! –Song of Solomon 7:6
Oh, how we need to let this truth of Christ interrupt us and redirect us as wives. You need to remember to tell your husband, “You can do it! You can do it, You can do it too!”
The divine grace we receive from Christ should fuel our gracious natures and fill our conversations. We are people who desperately need grace. Grace in loving our husbands, grace in finding joy in the mundane and grace in loving ourselves through the changing seasons.
You might be tempted to lose your focus when he has mismatched his socks, tempted to grumble because he seems to be slouchy and slow, but if you remember that your service is unto the Lord, then every other focus dims in His light.
A wife who sees her husband through the lens of Christ, will perceive the breathtaking glory of her service to her husband. Your respect to him, whether he has carried his duties imperfectly or not, is the ground on which he plants his feet into, to meet life’s challenges.
So let’s die to ourselves again! Go ahead and say,
“Hunnie, you can do it, you can do it, you can do it too!”