You cannot “lord” over each other everyday and expect a smooth sailing.
If you feel taking a “lowly place” in marriage is losing, then you don’t get it much. If you think the sneer will help, then you are far from the light – draw nigh to Christ!
If you feel that you need to win everything in marriage, you don’t grasp the intensity of that position of a servant, the power and divine authority that comes with taking that position.
A servant in marriage, a servant of your spouse.
In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.He humbled himself by becoming obedient to death…
Being first, right, correct, the one, the winning one isn’t at all good, if it bears fruits of death.
It’s not the objective! The objective is to win, by being NOTHING! Like CHRIST DID!