LESSON 1: DO NOT BE UNEQUALLY YOKED.
Abraham said to the oldest servant of his house, who ruled over all that he had, and said, “Please, put your hand under my thigh, and I will make you swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and the God of the earth, that you will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell.”
It was known that the Canaanites did not believe in the God of Abraham nor did they regard His God in anyway. For the Canaanites, their hardened hearts would not fathom a God unseen that did miraculous things as they had heard from faraway Egyptian lands.
For Abraham, His faith was non-negotiable. He trusted God enough that he willed to sacrifice his only son Isaac even when God had not physically provided for him a sacrificial ram. Obedience to him came before personal feelings, preferences, assumptions, conveniences or even will. He was therefore never going to negotiate his faith when it came to finding a spouse for Isaac.
He had experienced firsthand on the consequences of choice –and this choice was one he had to do with great delayance and diligence. No gambling.
No matter what, the wife to his only son had to come from his kindred. One born of the same spirit, convicted by the same spirit and bonded by the same spirit of Yahweh. A people who worshipped and believed in the one true God.
So Abraham sent his oldest servant Eliezer who knew his ways, his household affairs and definitely his impudent faith in God. The writings were set on stone. “You will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites,” in other words, you shall not be unequally yoked. [2nd Corinthians 6:14]
Personal faith and marriage are most definitely, correlated. It matters who you marry and it matters too in whom they believe in. It matters who gives them their direction and who speaks to them and touches them in places unseen to you.
Personal faith in God matters. It is the number one check.
Marriage has no fury like our God ignored.
It is very sad that young people nowadays have no regards to God whatsoever when it comes to marriage. He is totally blurred, scarcely mentioned, rarely seeked, too obscured, treated as an afterthought or even an inconvenience when He is even mentioned.
How then do we expect to function optimally if we cannot go the author and the perfecter Himself – [Hebrews 12:2]? How do we forge our own direction yet the director and script writer of this ‘movie’ called marriage is God? How are we to know what to do if we do not consult Him on the “What ifs’”, “What is this?”, “How do I do this?” and “When do I get to do this?”
If you are not yet married, know that marriage cannot be what only God should be. It doesn’t matter how happy he/she makes you. It doesn’t matter the flutters he/she triggers in your belly.
It doesn’t matter your deep desire for each other, for desire is only a mere drop compared to the finite wonders of what marriage should encompass, hold, mold and showcase.
Marriage cannot be without mutual pursuit of the one true God in one purpose, one faith and one spirit.
Good enough, kind enough, understanding enough, tolerable enough, reasonable enough doesn’t cut for marriage if the two of you will not be joined under the umbrella of one authority, who is Christ.
The authority of Christ. One who commands it all in heavens, on earth and under the seas. One who quietens raging storms both seen and unseen. One whom every knee bows down to [Philippians 2:10-11] and demons quake and tremble under the mention of His name [James 2:19].
Faith is your number one non-negotiable card.
Think about this, how else Miss, will he submit his will and hard stances to you if he doesn’t learn to bend his will to Christ? How will he love you if he hasn’t experienced what true intimacy is from his relationship with the Lord?
How else Mr., will she regard you, respect you, submit to you, show you honor if she doesn’t learn to rise above in strength away from the common influences of the world and the pulse of feminism that fights to desecrate our femininity away, replacing our quiet and gentle spirits with the spirit of aggression, bitterness and cynicism?
How will the two of you fight together against the one common foe that not only hates what you are both pursuing – a holy union, but also hates the formidable vision of exalting Christ in your union?
How will you both be able to shield your children against the fiery darts of doubt and self- absorption that seek to drain their identity out way too early in their lives? How will you teach them about the love of Christ and the grace He supplies implausibly, without actually receiving it from the giver?
Both of you should be in Christ, believing the same things about Christ and the giftings He gives once born again.
Don’t tell me they are understanding, or “I will help him or her into salvation.” That is white lie from the enemy. You cannot do what only the HolySpirit can do and that is, convict. Do not date hoping to “get them into salvation.”
Well, you might argue on a few cases of “some who have gotten saved.” But be warned, it is the exception and not the rule. I can bet also 100 percent, that the work done in them was the HolySpirit work not the mere effort of the one who loves them.
Do not settle for less than what God has at the table for you.
Do not be unequally yoked.