DAY 6: THE EYES
We were having a quiet and a peaceful evening, just catching up on our day while watching YouTube Kids channel with daughter. Suddenly, an advert popped up on the TV. It was a song advertising a product, yet with subtle sexual tones. The ladies were not naked, but dressed, minimally dressed. What is “socially acceptable to the eyes without being overt” but very deliberate on passing the sexual innuendos.
They wiggled their bodies seductively and smacked their lips, mark you, all this time, it’s a product being marketed. Sigh.
We all kept quiet for a minute of two then our daughter made her remarkable opening speech.
Her: Mommy and Daddy, why is that girl not wearing any cooooths [read clothes]?
Hubby: They are dancing.
Her: With no cootooths?
Hubby: [Coughs…I sensed he was asking the Lord for the right answer]. Its because it’s not really a good song.
Her: It’s not a good song for Jesus?
Hubby: Yes, it’s not a song for worshipping Jesus.
Me: We need to wear clothes baby girl. Okay? We don’t dance without clothes, and we should dance to Jesus. Like the song,’Do do do not give up’. Have you understood us?
Her: We need to wear coooths and dance a good song for Jesus?
Hubby: Yes. We have to wear clothes and worship the Lord with how we dance.
Her: Not like that one.
Us: Yes, not like that one. Okay?
Her: Alright, Mommy and Daddy.
After that conversation, Johnny and I looked at each other like, we just Aced an exam. A perfect opportunity to preach Christ to her, at her level of understanding. The lesson will most probably repeat over and over again at every given opportunity, but that marked another milestone in training our children to discern what they should look at and what they should deliberately turn away from.
Sex sells everything. We are bombarded by sexual images, subtle or not, everywhere, anytime and our children are not exempted from its trap. We live in a world which talks too much about sex but values it less. We think we know about sex, equate it to a mere desire just like hunger or thirst, but have no idea of how powerful it is when not put within certain boundaries.
That advert popped up when we least expected. It could have been very odd if one of us pranced onto the remote to switch the TV off. What about those days when we are not around? Or in school or in her playground? What about some uninhibited children in Sunday school?
What can we do yet we cannot tether our children next to us?
It’s interesting to know that in this world, we will all be tempted by the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life – 1st John 2:16.
Its through the eyes that David coveted upon Bathsheba and committed adultery with her. Adultery beget murder of her husband Uriah, and murder beget death of her firstborn. It’s a snowball of sin after sin. We cannot take what we see lightly and what we expose our children to.
What they see will imprint on them.
Statistics show that 97 percent of children were introduced to pornography simply by being shown an image that was sexually provocative. The desire, to see more grew out of that one simple encounter.
Therefore, you and I cannot sit pretty and assume that all will work out. We need to do our part of sitting our children down and have hard conversations however uncomfortable it is. The work of training comes in when we teach them to discern right and wrong by helping them practice it. – Hebrews 5:14.
As a parent, it would be very unfortunate to say that the HolySpirit will help your children through without knowing that the HolySpirit does not work in void.
He works with what already you and I have deposited in our children. The Bible declares that our spirit is the lamp of God – Proverbs 20:20, so you will have to have already spoken to their little spirit about the what to watch and what not watch, and why. Let’s not abdicate the work of training up our children in the ways of the Lord.
Teach them the difference between what is right in the eyes of the Lord and what the world calls right.
Teach them to turn away from anything that seems wrong – [1st Thessalonians 5:22] or that will corrupt their minds.
Teach them to ask you questions if they do not know how to go about certain issues of life.
Above all, pray that the Lord will use what you have instilled in them. That the HolySpirit will always convict them not to watch anything that will imprint on them negatively because the Bible says that our spirit is the lamp of God.
If you have older children, it’s a perfect time to talk to them about Christ and what He requires of them with their eyes. Teach them that some things are permissible and can be allowed to do, but not all is expedient. All things are lawful, but all things edify not.
In other words, they can say, “I have to be allowed watch anything, because all my friends watch”, but teach that not everything is helpful and not everything encourages their growth.
Have those hard conversations that most parents shy away from and leave the work to their teachers’ and Sunday School teachers’.
If they are younger, their minds are also curious. Do not assume that they do not receive any negative signals. Plus, well, we are all born in sin. So, answer their questions straight from God’s word, with the language that they will not only hear, but understand.
For instance, tell them why you cannot permit them watching Halloween movies or Halloween games. Do not just say, “Because you cannot!” Tell them how it will impact their dreams, beliefs etc. Then give them an alternative to watch, like Blippi which is very educational or Superbook. We love watching those two with my Family. It has great lessons for kids and for grown-ups too.
If it’s a movie, read its reviews before taking your kids to watch them. Don’t just run to the theaters because a movie is on premier and you have to have to have a Facebook post. Run through the trailer. Read the reviews. Research if it has any sexual nuances.
Be very intentional in helping them develop a godly blueprint for their lives through the help of the HolySpirit.
Thank you for my children. Your world says that we are in the world but not of the world. You also say that there will be many troubles in this world, but we should be glad and joyful, because we have overcome.
Jesus I commit my children’s eyes before you. I pray that just like Job, they will make a covenant with you regarding their eyes. That they will turn away from evil and put aside anything that does not encourage their growth.
Bless them with a courageous spirit to stand up for what is right in your word.
Help us to model your ways to them too Jesus. That we may live to declare that Jesus you are able to raise a Godly generation.
In Jesus name.