DAY 8: THAT HE WILL BE FAITHUL TO HIS VOWS
Many a man proclaims his own loyalty, but who can find a trustworthy man? Who can say, “I have kept my heart pure; I am cleansed from my sin”?
Today morning, as I gazed out through our bedroom window, I felt nostalgic. Years on into our marriage, the weather today reminded me of our wedding vows.
There I was side by side with my handsome groom as we vowed to each other.
It was not sunny, nor bright. The day was cold and dull as if handling us a premonition card saying, “You will have to choose each other everday, even when days are as cold as winter, for better or worse. To love and to cherish. Till death does you part.”
We stood side by side, not just to proclaim publicly what we FELT for each other, but to PROMISE, before God, our families and the mass that WE DO, and WE WILL STILL DO, whether we tread on high places or stumble through the valley of the shadow of death.
We vowed each other into a journey we are still unraveling almost 8 years on. A journey that rests only on the author and sustainer of these earthly marriages. THE LORD GOD.
See, promises made by human beings, however intentional, can break. Our own fortitude, even generous wishes cannot sustain us in the long haul. We need to rest on a power greater than any other force on earth. The power of Christ.
Trading our independence in marriage, dying to self, extinguishing the right to be right and the sense of entitlement, requires the Lord.
Taking on the assignment of your spouse as yours, becoming stewards of the great mystery _the profound mystery, one that the apostle tells us. “And I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church” (Ephesians 5:32), is not easy.
Vows cost. They have never been easy.
God did not create marriage to display a love that we traipse in casually. An easy love. He made it to display a love that costed, even unto death. A love that bore it all, humiliation, rejection, pain, adversity, just to get to the love of His life, the church.
Am not insinuating that marriage should be a painful journey through and through, but it certainly does have a price to pay.
A beautiful marriage doesn’t simply ride on the wings of young love, the fire that blazes wild and free.
A beautiful marriage soars on the wings of intimacy, cultivated by two people who refuse to give ONLY WHEN given.
It’s made of two different people who choose to rejoice in each other and cultivate each other.
Who choose to rid of the word IF. Who choose to imitate the costliest of all loves, the love of Jesus Christ for us.
It’s made of two sinners who refuse to hold against each other the score card of perfection, instead belabor to love through the words, “Though the fig tree does not bud and no fruit is on the vines, though the olive crop fails and the fields produce no food, though the sheep are cut off from the fold and no cattle are in the stalls.” (Habakkuk 3:17).
A love that remains true, when the bank accounts are nor more, when the children do not come, when the pain of sickness lingers, and the sting of death hits the most unexpected of places.
It’s a love that chooses each other through and through. It’s a love that will not run to other strange fires when the frost hits home.
It’s a vow to sit with each other, stick to each other, cuddle down with each other, whispering to each other of your eternal devotion, hand in hand, rehearsing the promises of God together.
You need to pray that your husband will find his vows compelling enough to keep. Not because you are too beautiful, too bright, too lovely, too witty or too brainy, but for the honor of the Lord’s name.
That his desire to keep his vows will stem deep from within him, and from that fire, you two will find the grace you need to keep loving one another — for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.
That he will take you completely, your beauty and your scars, frailties and strengths, ups and downs, edges and smooth curves, and labour for your radiance. The day when he will presents you to himself in splendor, a woman who shines bright enough to illuminate this dark world with the glories of Christ. (Ephesians 5:27).
That he will know that you are equal co-heirs in Christ. A partner he got to harvest more souls to the Lord’s Kingdom. (Romans 8:17)
Today pray that your husband will be faithful to his vows. That God’s Word will be an echo through with the Lord reminds him of his part in your marriage.
The Lord promises to help him through the power of the Holy Spirit. Pray that he will ask for that help, and will never cease to keep the vows he made first unto the Lord, as unto you.
Heavenly Father in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. I thank you for my husband. Today Lord, remind him of his wedding vows.
Words are easy to speak, but without your help, they are only mere words.
They cannot convict enough without the push of the Holy Spirit.
Lord Jesus, help my husband keep his vows.
Help him to love his family through the seasons of life. May he rest on you Jesus for help.Teach him to show initiative through the seasons that we will encounter together.
Today may we vow to love each other into the unknown. A place where your promises are bigger, more glorious than our wedding vows.
In Jesus name I pray Amen.