DAY 15: THAT OUR FRIENDSHIP IN MARRIAGE WILL BE OF IMPORTANCE TO HIM
Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.
At the heart of every happy marriage is a bubbling well deep friendship.
A friendship that goes deeper than just a lip service. A mutual respect for each other’s company and enjoying the moments spent together, however mundane.
If you ask me, such couples know each other so intimately. Their individual worlds are so comingled, and it’s marked with a deeper love for each other, than just waiting for a particular day, time or anniversary so as to express their love to each other.
The fondness they have is expressed through small gestures day in, day out.
These are couples who remember to call each other even if they left the house together in the morning. Couples who check up on each other in the afternoon to ask how they they fairing on with the weather. Couples who accompany each other to their spouses favourite mall, shop together since it’s important to the wife, or watch football together, since it’s important to the husband.
Couples who make dinner time a special time with no buzzing phones around. Who laugh at each other’s lame jokes or tickle each other in bed. Couples who fart around each other freely and discuss how their tummies kept rumbling after eating at a certain joint.
These couples have a regard that a marriage needs to be grounded on. FRIENDSHIP. The humdrum of life seems too unromantic from what we think is romantic, but this is right here, is what fuels romance in a marriage.
These shared mundane moments are the very building blocks of a love that stands against the test of time.
Friendship fuels the flames of romance because it offers the best protection against feeling adversarial toward your spouse. Who would want to lose a dear friend?
I know I wouldn’t! I love my husband, but I like him too much too as a friend. I enjoy listening to his stories, however lame they would seem to another person. He makes me laugh over his silly comments about everything.
A marriage needs friendship. A marriage without friendship feels like a drudgery. Drudgery is dangerous for any marriage.
We need to pray that our husbands will cultivate that friendship pillar with us in our marriages.
Its easy to talk to a friend, it’s easy to rebuke a friend _Proverbs 27:6. It’s easy to reason with a friend. It’s easy to walk through life with a friend.
Remember Jesus calls us His friends. John 15:15. Why? Because it’s easy to converse with a friend and share the deepest longings of ones heart, be totally stripped down and vulnerable and be very candid about ones position.
We need to pray that our husbands will be tender and authentic with us. That they will be intentional to share their world with us.
That said, we ought to pray that we will pursue deep friendships too with our husbands.
That they will not feel as if they are walking on eggshells when around us. That they will be vulnerable enough with their struggles without fearing us putting on the cloak of being a judge and jury.
Heavenly Father in Jesus mighty name, I thank you for my husband.
Lord I pray that you will help him cultivate the friendship pillar with me. You have said in your Word that the wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.
Lord I pray that we will be sincere in our friendship to each other. That our connection will be punctuated with an everyday enjoyment of each other.
May we enjoy our time together. May we find joy in the mundane. May we pursue each other as not only lovers but friends. May we intentionally sacrifice each other’s time and resources for the sake of the other person.
May you build our union firmly in your Word and on the ground of deep FRIENDSHIP.
In Jesus name I pray. Amen