DAY 16: THAT HE WILL SHEPHERD OUR CHILDREN’S HEARTS
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.
You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
Just like our Good Shepherd, the Lord Jesus Christ, leads us through the paths of righteousness with a rod and a staff, every parent ought to have the same when shepherding a child’s heart.
There’s more than just simply hanging up rules on a plaque to follow. There is more than SERMONIZING what they should or not do. There’s more than just saying, “because I said so!”
Molding them to be disciples of Christ is progressive, it’s work, it’s an art overflowing with grace and grit. It’s shepherding.
Every child needs to be raised with two pats on the back. One low enough to correct the wrongs done, and one high enough to praise the right done.
See, all the issues of life come from the heart, not the intellectual mind. At the heart, lies every desire, beautiful or otherwise and it takes a parent with the right stand with God to accentuate what is good in them, their giftings and talents.
A father needs to be not only a model but a mentor too.
Remember the command is to train up a child_Proverbs 22:6. Therefore in training, they follow what is being demonstrated more than what is being said.
The best lessons a child can receive from his or her father are those he or she catches not just taught.
They need a model to give them an example to look up to and a goal to strive for, and they need a mentor to train them in reaching that goal.
This is what shepherding a child’s heart looks like.
They need a father who will call them out in love when wrong, and call their name out in praise when they have done a great job.
A father who will discipline them in love [not anger] when wrong, Colossians 3:21, but gently carry them through their mistakes, guiding them, helping them come up with their vision boards, hold their hands, bind their wounds until they can stand on their own.
What better place than our homes where our children can watch us live out in Godly precepts.
Fatherhood can be overwhelming. That’s why the Lord calls our husbands to shepherd our children in love, not vexation. Their patience will be stretched. Their resources will be stretched, that’s why we need to be courageous enough to pray for them.
We need to pray that they will bear the fruit of patience as they shepherd our children. That they will correct them in love and purity. That they will be models to our children in how they love the Lord, their devotion to God and family, in the faithfulness they have towards us and the grace they excude in the face of turmoil.
We need to pray that our husbands will not only prove their fatherhood through disciplining our children, but through loving them too.
That they will not be absent fathers, aggressive fathers who cow their children in fear and discouragement, or passive fathers who replace their interpersonal connections with gifts, but that they will give them the one thing their little souls will glean from, their time. Time to play, time to get silly, time to pray, time to walk together, simply time with the little ones.
That they will shepherd our children’s hearts through firm but tender ways, just like our Savior Jesus Christ.
Heavenly Father in Jesus name, I thank you for my husband. Thank you for making him a father to many.
I commit his heart unto you. I pray that it will be in the right standing with you. I pray that you will cause him to shepherd our children’s hearts in your ways.
May he not be an absent father. May he not be a passive father who lays back in everything, or an aggressive father who discourages our children.
Instead may he be like the the ancient men who hoped in you. Who consulted you as they brought up their children. May he pattern his fatherhood from you Abba Father.
You are loving, gracious, present, forgiving, slow to anger, full of surpassing love and great.
May he imitate you Father. May he not do as the world does. May he not conform to the standards of the world, but let his mind be renewed through your Son Jesus Christ and in the power of the Holy Spirit.
I pray that he will be a wonderful Father, a great model and an awesome mentor to our children all to the glory of your name.
In Jesus name I pray, Amen