DAY 26: THAT HE WILL BE FORGIVING AND FORBEARING
Colossians 3:12-13, Put on then, as Gods chosen ones, holy and beloved . . . patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other.
Love is patient. If it has to be patient, then it has to have two important components. First, “bearing with one another” , secondly, “if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other.” Forbearance and forgiveness.
When I got married, I literally got to understand what forbearance looks like. My husband’s little quirks irked me, and to tell you the truth, forgiveness wasn’t my cup of tea. It wasn’t until I asked the Lord to work on my stinking attitude that these fruits began to bud. Am still a practitioner, but purposeful, and the journey has been too endearing in CHRIST.
To forbear means to endure. So this means that a husband, should learn to live with the wife, sometimes not in ways that he would hope for, like or prefer, but he should bear with her weaknesses.
Secondly, he should forgive his wife. Many times she will falter and fail, but forgiveness means that he holds no bad debt against her, for we all owe unto each other the debt of love.
Forgiveness means that he shouldn’t repay evil for evil, transgressions for transgressions, wickedness for wickedness, but he should give good in all that.
In the process, he is freed from bitterness and resentment.
If a marriage has to endure in the long haul, if two have continue cleaving onto to each other, if two have to command a blessing unto their lives, then both have to forgive and forbear with each other.
As much as forgiveness is purely personal prerogative, we should beseech the Lord on behalf of our husbands.
That they will be forgiving and forbearing. That they will not be embittered with us, but extend to us the same grace they equally ask.
They will handle our weaknesses, frailties, mistakes, with a FORBEARING spirit, being gentle teachers to what we may not know or need to re-learn.
That they will not be quick to react in anger, instead be of a gentle posture. That they will have the gift of grace, and will give unto each other again and again and again—because we are known by the Lord and we know Him.
Heavenly Father in Jesus name, I thank you for my husband’s heart. Lord you have asked us to be FORBEARING and FORGIVING towards each other.
I pray that you will turn my husband’s heart towards you. Lord help him handle my weaknesses with a forbearing spirit and a heart filled out with the fruit of forgiveness.
I pray that our marriage will be characterized by Joy, punctuated with the eternal marks of glory for what you are doing in us.
Help him forgive me when I unknowingly or knowingly fail him. Help us build our marriage on your principles, on you our Rock, Jesus Christ. May we forbear with each other, as you do unto us.
May your Holyspirit guide, help, remind, and convict our husbands in ways only you could.
May we have the gift of grace, that we will give each other again and again and again, without keeping scores because you call us your sons.
In Jesus name I pray, Amen