You stare at your spouse and wonder, why did I marry him/her? What made me zealously hooked onto them? Your thoughts spin out like a maelstrom. You are in disarray. Your heart pounds faster… “I think I made a mistake!”
Before those thoughts materialize physically, it’s important to take captive of every imagination that’s counter to the Word of the Lord.
Thoughts affect our actions. The Bible says, “As you thinketh, you become.” _Proverbs 4:23
What are your thoughts about your spouse today? Are your thoughts in line with God’s Word?
Anytime we choose to come into alignment with God’s Word, there is power activated in our lives.
For many of us, we rarely consider our thoughts and how they affect our actions. Your thoughts are powerful directors of your feelings and your actions. Learning to think the way God thinks must become a part of who we are.
We have anywhere from 12,000 to 60,000 thousand thoughts a day and for most people, 80% of them are negative.
Pause for a moment and think about that. If you are even close to that number it would be super powerful for you to begin to think about what you are thinking about.
Negative thoughts bring about negative actions and beliefs.
95% of our thoughts are the exact same repetitive thoughts from the day before. Do you see why making sure we train ourselves to monitor our thoughts and bring them into alignment with God’s word matters?
There is a scriptural directive for this.: “We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ,” 2 Corinthians 10:5
This Bible plan based on Philippians 4:8 has been created to help you begin to think about your own thoughts about your spouse and to recognize if they are, indeed, in agreement with the way the Bible tells us to think.
WHATSOEVER IS TRUE
Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything, worthy of prai bese, dwell on these things. Philippians 4:8
Try ask anyone today, “What is truth?” and you’re sure to start a heated conversation.
Try it on these hard streets, and you’re likely to receive laughter, scorn, and derision.
The concept of truth has clearly fallen on hard times, and the consequences of rejecting it are ravaging human society.
What is truth?
Truth is arbitrary. It cannot be obliterated, it cannot change tide.
One of the most profound and eternally significant questions in the Bible was posed by an unbeliever. Pilate—the man who handed Jesus over to be crucified—turned to Jesus in His final hour, and asked, “What is truth?”
It was a rhetorical question, a cynical response to what Jesus had just revealed: “I have come into the world, to testify to the truth.”
Two thousand years later, the whole world breathes Pilate’s cynicism.
To, some say truth is a narrative constructed by the elite for the purpose of controlling the ignorant masses.
To some, truth is subjective, the individual world of preference and opinion.
Others believe truth is a collective judgment, the product of cultural consensus, and still others flatly deny the concept of truth altogether.
So, what is truth?
Here’s a simple definition drawn from what the Bible teaches: Truth is that which is consistent with the mind, will, character, glory, and being of God.
Even more to the point: Truth is the self-expression of God. That is the biblical meaning of truth.
Because the definition of truth flows from God, truth is arbitrary. God is the author, source, determiner, governor, arbiter, ultimate standard, and final judge of all truth.
If then that’s the definition of TRUTH, what then do your carry as your marriage prosody? Are your thoughts about your spouse TRUE?
“My wife isn’t doing her level best for me.”
“My husband is not considerate as he should be.”
“We are not as lucky as the next door neighbor.”
While some circumstances in marriage would cause us to think this way, the TRUTH is that the enemy works thrice to make us believe that that’s indeed sealed as the TRUTH.
We spend our lives believing those lies. We believe them about ourselves, other people, our husbands, our wives, and even at times, about God.
Taking a few moments everyday to think about what you are thinking is a powerful practice.
The truth is, your spouse is a gift from the Lord to you.
He is God’s child and God takes personally how you treat his child. Whatever you do, say, or think about your husband, wife, you have done, said, or thought about Jesus.
“The King will answer and say to them, ‘Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers of Mine, even the least of them, you did it to Me.’” Matthew 25:40 NASB
Whatever you think about your husband or wife, you think about yourself because the two of you are one. “For this reason, a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24.
It’s interesting to note that among the full armour of the Lord, is the BELT OF TRUTH.
A belt, holds up lose clothes in place.
Truth will hold everything in your marriage in place. No matter the hulling winds, no matter the tempting tides, TRUTH, will keep you from crumbling down.
It’s more about what God says about your spouse, and less of your personal constructs towards your spouse.
Choose today to focus your thoughts on the TRUTH of who your spouse is. It will change the way you interact with him or her.
Think of things that are true. Truth is what will guard your heart against resentment and bitterness towards your spouse.
What does God say about your spouse?
What does God say about your marriage?
What promises does He speak concerning your marriage?
Whatsoever things are true….think about those things… Phillipians 4:8.