…. and who doesn’t love…. the kisses…
Song of Solomon 1
May he kiss me with the kisses of his mouth! For your love is better than wine. The aroma of your oils is fragrant and pleasing; Your name is perfume poured out; Therefore the maidens love you. Draw me away with you and let us run together! Let the king bring me into his chambers.
Song of Solomon enchants me.
God opens with a bang! There’s is no gradual acclimation, a step at a time, but rather a baptism by fire! The kisses!
I remember our wedding like it was yesterday. Almost 8 years ago, I stood face to face with this hunk man, all adorned, staring right into my eyeballs.
When the Pastor declared us husband and wife, and uttered those golden words, “you may kiss the bride.” His eyes dilated! I could feel my husband’s heart pounding! Oh didn’t we passionately kiss!
The world momentarily shut!
What followed that evening was a text to Johnny from the Bishop, saying “John, please be gentle!”
I think he saw how enamoured he was, totally love-struck, and he imagined that I would be tossed up and down by this man!
Interestingly, the Greek word for worship is proskyneo. It comes from two words: pros, meaning “toward,” and kyneo, meaning “to kiss.”
While we shouldn’t worship our husbands or make idols out of them, even our kisses are acts of worship and adoration of God for the spouse He has given us.
Song of Solomon begins with lots of teasing each other towards . . . and has lots of wisdom to glean from.
Why would God take His time to breathe this Words to us?
See, we pursue each other before marriage, we make time, we stay up late to chat, we travel miles to see our beloved, yet the dance somehow freezes in marriage. This is what God is telling us, don’t let the teasing die once you say I do. Do not let the seed die.
The pursuit should continue. When romance dies, a long spell of winter kicks in characterized by words like apathy, boredom, floundering, disinterest, indifference, and finally, a fall out.
Marriage has a subtle way of sliding one into the humdrum of the mundane. Life happens so fast and unexpectedly. While you may not have control over what happens, you can have control over your marriage bed. Over your intimacy and it’s longevity.
One of the ways is to keep the dating going. Keep the teasing going. Am not saying that sex is everything in marriage, but it is of essence.
Say like the Shunammite woman, Draw me away with you and let us run together! Let the king bring me into his chambers. We will rejoice and be glad in you; We will remember and extol your love more [sweet and fragrant] than wine. Rightly do they love you. Song of Solomon 1:4.
Mr. run after her, date her, spoil her, text her, tease her, and you will not need to keep checking in with her in the evening if she’s in the mood!
Your sexual relationship should be worked on as much as you are working on other areas of your marriage. Kiss passionately!
God isn’t a spoilsport. He created this gift! He enjoys when you two worship Him by surrendering unto each other, while being wholly considerate of each other’s well-being.
He wants your love to overleap the massive wall of your selfhood; make it’s appetite altruistic, toss personal happiness aside as a triviality, and plant the interests of another in the centre of your being.
So don’t just drop on her Mr.! Mrs. don’t lie there like a dang log!
Read it again! Am still born again!
God wired you to enjoy kissing your spouse, even to yearn for it. Kissing is worship too.
I get singles asking me if they should kiss and how far they should go with the kissing.
Listen, if you are single, please don’t kiss the frogs in hopes of turning one into a Prince Charming. That only happens in Disney world, not in these real world.
A kiss can prompt a desire to develop a romance further, and it can be a warning sign to run the other way.
Mostly, it’s a warning sign to trend in carefully. Why, because romance feeds. Once you kiss, there’s no turning back.
The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender.
God fashioned all those heart pounding, blood dilating, chemical reactions for a specific reason: mutual attraction and enjoyment, and it’s safe in marriage. There are no sex scars.
Also remember, it’s an act of worship too. Isn’t he ingenious?
My question then would be, who do you want to worship with? Who do you want to approach the altar of the Lord with?
So fight for chastity. Fight for purity. However hard it may feel with your bodies groaning after each other, fight for HONOR more than personal fulfillment. The kisses will come, and they will be unending!
And you thought it was just a kiss.
The next time you kiss your spouse, think about how our Father is happy that you’re enjoying something he created just for you.
Just make sure you don’t get a text from your Bishop saying…”Please be gentle.”