How often do you fill your love tank? Do have a tank in first place, or probably you only have a couple of buckets? Pots? How often do you fill your love tank?
Do have a tank in the first place, or probably you only have a couple of buckets? How often do you get away from the humdrum of life to rejuvenate yourselves, recalibrate, rekindle?
Genesis 2:25 : And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
In all relationships, it is possible to make it to the end having only endured. You work and work and work and you just don’t fail, only survive. All of us have the option to never access the full potential of our relationships. Sadly many marriages are on life support.
Even if it doesn’t fall apart, even if it doesn’t unravel, it merely becomes a contract. You can make it to the end, but never get out of it what God packed inside of it. That’s survival.
However, it doesn’t have to be that way. God calls us to thrive. Live in abundance. Marriage can be enjoyed, not endured. Here is the big idea: You can have as much as you want.
Jesus says to the servants, “Fill the water-pots with water,” and they filled them up to the brim. They got 150 gallons of wine because they filled their water-pots with 150 gallons of water. Now, understand that these servants didn’t go grab a hose, or flip a faucet on.
They went to the well, drew up the water bucket after bucket, and filled each and every water-pot to their fullest capacity. What does this tell us about marriage and relationships? Barely enough is not good enough. We tend to live paycheck to paycheck relationally.
Listen to me, you have the Holy Spirit that raised Jesus from the dead inside of your heart, you have God’s Word, you have God’s people around you, you have everything you need to have the marriage you were born to have.
Make no mistake, it takes work. It was hard work to pull each gallon of water out of the well, but because of that work they got to enjoy 150 gallons of wine. Am sure if they borrowed more pots, Christ wouldn’t have a problem filling them up too!
That is to say, we will enjoy our relationships to the level of our own exertion in them. Good marriages don’t just happen on their own. We must make time, the most precious gift we can give in a relationship.
We have to continually assume the best and not assign bad motives to actions. Give the benefit of the doubt rather than waiting to get hurt. We have to go the extra mile.
Look for opportunities to out-serve one another. Identify victories, catch your spouse doing something right, look for the good and not the bad. Encourage one another. Be naked and unashamed in your marriage. Be vulnerable. Be real. Don’t keep secrets. Don’t hold back.
Share your fears, and dreams, and insecurities and desires. There is a big difference between close by and close to.
Proximity is not the same as intimacy. If we sow sparingly, we will reap sparingly, so we must fill these pots to the brim— and we will get to experience the power and abundance God has for us in them.
So get planting in your marriage, but plant the right seeds, because you will reap what you sow. Don’t just merely settle for buckets, get some tanks in your marriage and fill them up as the Lord fills you two!
Fill up the tanks, and keep refilling them till you overflow!