As children, we didn’t have a choice but to obey our parents. This luxury was a bridge too far. We fed from their table and lived under their authority. Disobedience would lead to punishments of all sorts and of course a few whips on the little fleshy butts. God bless our parents for the lashes.
But now that we are old enough to make our own decisions and be under our own terms, what is left for us to do is to hold our parents with great respect and the highest regard.
We do this by:
In my entire life, I have never come across anyone who never warmed up to respect, regardless of their social status!
Yes, they say that respect is not given but earned but when it comes to your parents, it’s MANDATORY.
It doesn’t matter whether you like them or not.
It’s not about what you think about them, whether they have earned your respect or not.
It doesn’t matter what mistakes they did or the choices they made for you.
The bottomline is this; they deserve your unconditional RESPECT.
Whatever the case, its Godly to hold them with the highest regards.
They bore you.
They took care of your when your bowels could not hold no stool.
They made sure you were warm and clean.
When you cooed, they understood your language.
When you were toothless and weak, they fed you!
God chose them to usher you into this world.
I know some will tell me that their parents neglected or abandoned them when they were too little to know what’s happening. Yes they did, but so what?
Will you repay evil with evil?
Two wrongs don’t make a right!
Honoring our parents it’s not a matter of choice but an obligation.
Just as our children are a gift to us, we are gifts to our parents.
2. By taking heed of their guidance.
Some people mistake honor for obedience and vice versa. But besides the fundamental difference between the two, one (honor) has a reward attached to its compliance while the other one (Obey) is a duty to fulfill.
Your obedience to your parents will give you peace and bring them joy. This must me done in the confines of ‘In the Lord’!
A father’s INSTRUCTIONS are a graceful garland for your head. They are a mark of honor on your head. They are a beacon from where you draw the wisdom for living.
A mother’s TEACHINGS are like a pendant for your kneck. They compliment your OUTLOOK! They help you be aware of your environment.
A father INSTRUCTS and a mother TEACHES.
This is the idea of God in the perfect combination of a marriage union.
Nevertheless, we live in a world where things are imperfect. That’s why the Word of God is a guide to every man or woman raising their children singly. He fills the gap!
Obedience means hearing and keeping the instructions and the teachings given from a Godly premise.
When God says that obedience is better than sacrifice, He underscores the importance of abiding to the instructions and commandments. He gives them in love so that we don’t get into trouble. If we abide in Him and do what He requires, though He permit suffering for our chastening, building of perseverance and faith, for sure, He shall refine us to a better version, a worthy vessel of honor.
I remember when daddy disciplined us, he was tough and objective. You cross the line, the rod will be on your butt cheeks resonating at 10 stripes per minute!
It was not easy being told to wait for little longer.
It wasn’t a walk in the park when told to accompany my elder siblings to the shamba to till the land or harvest maize.
But through it all, I now understand the value of hardwork and diligence.
I still his instructions when I was a little boy.
He’s full of knowledge and wisdom.
God bless him.
3. By being INTENTIONAL in our parenting.
On the same note, we as parents should teach our kids to live in obedience. They may not know how to do it but they learn from us.
They become a reflection of us and that of the society but most importantly, they become us way before the society shapes them.
Teaching them obedience through practical demonstrations is a sure bet.
How we speak to each other, how we behave in traffic, how we listen to instructions and follow them, how we read the manual before operating the new household equipments, and so forth will give them a preview of what obedience and following instructions really means.
It’s the little things that matter.
If you feel indebted for not being the best child when growing up, you can always go back home and ask them to forgive you. Forgive yourself too and start honoring them.
Maybe you differed and made choices that were not appropriate.
Maybe you messed up and didn’t listen to your mother’s counsel.
Forgive yourself and ask for forgiveness.
Go home and carry with you what your daddy and mom likes. Let them bless you as they forgive you.
Reconcile and build the relationship.
To the glory of God the Father!
4.Do not DESPISE them!
Proverbs 20:20; “Whoever curses his father or his mother, his lamp will be put out in deep darkness.”
This verse gives me goosebumps everytime I read it. It is real and I have seen its practical manifestation.
I wonder how a normal human being can curse, insult or despise their parents!
Regardless of who or what they are/were to you, there’s no legal ground to treat your parents with contempt.
Why should your LAMP be put out in utter darkness just because you failed to venerate them?
Your LAMP is every kind of favor that the Lord has bestowed upon you. It also includes those promises that He has for your future.
The lamp also signifies clarity, vision and direction. It is your prosperity torch.
You risk losing all these when you despise your parents.
“The eye that mocks his father, And scorns obedience to his mother, The ravens of the valley will pick it out, And the young eagles will eat it.” Proverbs 30:17 says so.
When you fail to give honor to them, and subsequently mock them, you become BLIND. Walking and running haphazardly, chasing the wind with no satisfaction in life.
God gives you to your depraved mind.
You become unfruitful!
You seem to be progressing but in the essence you are disintegrating.
God honors authority. When He bestowed it to our parents, He didn’t give us an opportunity to negotiate how we should treat our parents. He gave us the do’s and don’ts. No bargains.
Now because they have grown old and seem naive, you think that you are too good deal with their shortcomings.
Think again bruh.
A parent is to be given honor, whether they are alive or resting with the angels.
Like I said from the beginning, it’s not the person you are honoring; it’s the authority that rests in the institution.