Before Adam became a husband, then a father, he was a son of God. Created as the FIRST man. He literally was God’s perfect image bearer. No sin, no taint, only God’s pure perfection.

He carried His identity in him. God’s DNA was engraved in him. Everything was in perfect balance, in the honey moon suite called Eden.

Adam had clear instructions on what to do. His work, his purpose, was to tend to the garden and in turn, it would give nothing short of a prolific bloom.
His identity was stacked up right. He knew who he was and what he was called to do.

He wasn’t in competition with anything or anyone else. His lane was marked out right.

We do not know how long God took to bring Eve to Adam, but what we are sure about is this, he enjoyed a quintessential presence of God.

His identity was right. He did not have any carnival mirrors. His mirror was God.

At the appointed time, God brought ‘ezer’ to him, Eve, a woman who would work side by side with Adam, and together, they would fulfill God’s purposes in the garden of Eden.

This Adamic nature falls squarely on our husbands. Before they became our husbands, they were earthly sons to their parents.

They still bear the surnames of their earthly parents. Their backgrounds, upbringing and exposure have shaped their outlook on life.  

However, there is an identity that goes skin deep, this is the identity of Christ.
Earthly identities can be quite dented, sinful and flawed, but the identity of Christ is one that carries no blemishes.

We need to pray for our husbands identities.
Look around. How many men do you see walking, defined by what they possess, their accolades, who they know, or their societal standards.? Take all that away and he crumbles down as fine dust. 

Those are men looking at carnival mirrors. Mirrors that show them who they are, but a distorted version of them since the images they are fixated on, are pegged on temporal gains of the world.

This reminds me of Job. A man who had great wealth, status, honour and power.
The Lord had his testimony and said, to the accuser of breathren, “Have you considered and reflected on My servant Job? For there is none like him on the earth, a blameless and upright man, one who fears God [with reverence] and abstains from and turns away from evil [because he honors God], Job 1:8

Yet, with that, his identity was RIGHTly placed. He knew that He belonged to the Lord and all that he had, belonged to Him too. 

He echoed that later on in Job 1:21 when he said, “Naked (without possessions) I came [into this world] from my mother’s womb, And naked I will return there. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; Blessed be the name of the Lord .”

You and I need to pray for our husbands to know that they are not defined by anything else, but God.

Their wealth, gains, accolades, mean nothing without the Lord being their heartbeat. 

It won’t matter how much they will posses in this fleeting time on earth, if they will stand to gain the whole world, but lose their souls.

Pray that his identity will be in God through Christ. That they will not be shaken when they run aground, or when life’s perplexing moments rear their ugly heads towards them.

Pray that when he is pressured in every way, he will know that he’s not crushed, when he’s perplexed, he will not be driven to despair, when he feels hunted down and persecuted, he will know that he’s not deserted, nor when he’s struck down, he is sure that he will never be destroyed, because he belongs to GOD.

The right identity in a husband, will be like a burdwark to his inner self that is being progressively renewed day by day. 
He will be sure that this momentary, light distress of the world, is producing for him an eternal weight of glory, a fullness, beyond all measure, a transcendent splendor and an endless blessedness, surpassing all comparisons, 

With the right identity, he will not look not at the things which are unseen, but the things which are invisible, the everlasting and imperishable.


Heavenly father, the Father of lights, who bears no shadow of turning. Who bears implausible grace, surpassing glory, beyond my wisdom, I thank you for the gift of my husband.
He is yours.

Engraved is your DNA in him.

Lord Jesus, may his identity continue to blossom in you. May the worldly allure never carry him away from your presence.

May he delight in you as you search him through and through.
Father, may he never side track from your path.

May his identity be always in you. Not his acquisitions, not his friends, not his accolades, not his achievements, not in his masculinity, not in his own wisdom, not in his own understanding, not his children, not even in me, but in the persona of Jesus Christ your Son.

In the name of Jesus Christ I pray.




We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!

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