30 DAYS CHALLENGE_PRAYING FOR MY HUSBAND : DAY 23
DAY 23: THAT HE WILL BE A GOOD FINANCIAL STEWARD
1st Timothy 6:6-9
But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. Those who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge people destruction.
The number one leading cause of divorce is….You guessed it right. It’s not infidelity. It’s money woes in a marriage.
Two people who were previously “in love” with each other can grow apart so fast if they do not cater to their financial oneness, feed it and grow it. It always seems obvious at first, that “love” would get one through the financial murk, but it’s not always so.
Financial fidelity in a marriage is organic. It has to be planted, watered, and cultured. If it doesn’t, the loophole always has a way of dripping it’s rot over the other facets in marriage.
Financial infidelity is witnessed in marriage when the two partners keep secret accounts or do not disclose to each other their financial status.
Nothing haemorrhages a marriage faster than lack of unity in financial matters. The oneness that God intends in a marriage extends further than what we presume. It’s physical, physiological, phychological, spiritual, emotional and financial oneness.
It’s important to note that there’s is nothing like, “my” money in marriage. It’s the Lord’s. The “our” comes in as stewardship.
Psalms 24:1 says that the earth is the Lord’s, and everything in it, the world and those who live in it.
One way that we and our husbands can realign how we view money matters, is to remind ourselves who the ultimate proprietor is. It’s God. We are just but stewards, the money is the Lord’s.
If our husbands have to glorify God in how they handle finances, meager or much, the gospel has to realign them right. Their minds have to have the right perspective.
As they chase paper, opportunities, financial deals, they have to remember that the money should act as an aid, not an idol.
Every day as they grab an opportunity, plan, save, they should ask themselves, and you too, “If CHRIST takes it all away, will I still love and serve Him?”
The fear of the Lord should drive our husbands to turn away from anything that could shift their minds and lives away from the Lord, money included.
The Bible says that those who want to get rich fall into temptations, traps and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.
Am cognizant of the fact that some wives earn more than their husbands. If you are in that category, bless the Lord for giving you the stewardship of much.
However, clout doesn’t give you an elbow room to be disrespectful to your husband, just because he earns way little than what you deem fit. What if all blows away? What if your husband is suddenly favoured and promoted? Will your attitude suddenly “heal” because his pockets are now well heeled?
Be careful of your stewardship. Be careful about regarding money in terms of ownership in the stead of stewardship.
To whom much is given, much is expected. You ought to be one in your finances.
A husband should lead in practicing these spiritual discipline with regards to finances. Giving_2nd Corinthians 9:7, Tithing_Malachi 3, seed offering_Mark 4,8, Firstfruits_Proverb 3,9-10 & Nehemiah 10,36, Supporting the poor, checking on the ophans and the widows and so on, these are the alms_Matthew 6,3-4 & Proverbs 19,17, and I believe honoring our parents through financial support if it’s needed.
Mrs. If your husband is not a good financial steward, and you are, then respectfully let him know that there are projects that need a certain amount of money and it will be prudent that you two commit there first.
The thing is, before you embark on that project, do let him know. Do not keep a secret stash of money without your husband’s knowledge.
It gives the devil the loophole to accuse you and attack your marriage based on a “good lie.” That’s all he needs, a twisted truth, half truths, begrudging heart and lukewarm type of person.
The motivation for your financial oneness should be your obedience to God’s Word. The reward is the blessing you get through your obedience.
We should pray that our husbands will be great stewards of whatever God accords them as talents in their hands. If they are faithful with the little, then they can be faithful with much.
We need to pray for them to understand that they have been called to serve the Lord through their resources. They shouldn’t serve their wealth, nor put their confidence in money nor riches because it’s all vanity_Matthew 6:24. Just like a passing wind.
We should pray that the Gospel will change their attitude towards finances. That they will seek to glorify the Lord through their stewardship.
That when they find themselves with a comfortable bank account and all of the efforts are panning out as hoped, that they will and must be careful that their security and joy will not be found in those riches.
We must boldly ask the Lord to keep them dependent and to help them glorify him. We must pray that they will keep a heart of humility as they handle finances, knowing that it’s the Lord who gives us the power to make wealth [Deuteronomy 8:18], and enjoy it [Ecclesiastes 5:19].
We should pray that they will serve the Lord with their all, for all belongs to the Lord, and find abundant joy in knowing the Lord and being known by Him.
Heavenly Father in Jesus name, I thank you for making us great stewards of your glorious creation.
Thank you for what you have given us to serve you. I pray that we will serve you wholeheartedly, without the tags of “my money.”
All belongs to you. Help us to be renewed by that Word, that all belongs to you.
We are your humble stewards. Give my husband grace to be godly and contented with what you have given us, as we wait on you for your divine expansion.
Give us the grace to enjoy what you have given unto us. Help us be totally transparent with each other. That we shall have financial oneness, depth and unity in our marriage.
May your Word shape our marriage to the glory and honor of your name. May your Word realign our financial thoughts. May your Word remind us of our stewardship.
In Jesus name I pray, Amen.