Ephesians 5:28-30

In the same way, husbands are to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hates his own flesh but provides and cares for it, just as Christ does for the church, since we are members of His body.

There is a pattern that God set in motion when He set the foundations of the earth for a marriage, and it’s one that works.

Husbands to love as CHRIST loved the church and the wives to submit under that God ordained authority. But when a husband chooses not to love, and the wife defiles her pureness by exhibiting brazen insubordination, marriage will never work.

There is love, but what the Bible tells our husbands to give, It’s not just love as a feeling, but SACRIFICIAL LOVE.

A Love that is hard. A love that brings tears to their eyes. A love that risks being rejected. A love that bears and holds no offense. That is the Love am talking about.

When I look at the word of the Lord, it’s interesting how God calls attention to the things that don’t so often occur to us naturally.

God calls our husbands to love their wives as their own bodies. No man disregards himself. No Husband would look at his hand or feet and say, “oh I hate my leg, I would rather chop it off!”

In that same breath, the Lord reminds our husbands that they ought to love us as their own bodies.
You and him are one. No Husband should then disregard his wife, since he ought to love her as his own body.

So being abrasive with you, harsh or insensitive with words is as senseless as your husband arguing with himself. Refusing to nourish you by providing for you, is more foolish than not feeding himself. Failing to wash you in the word of God is more repulsive than not taking care of his own hygiene.

But why then is it so hard for some husbands to love – that person being a beautiful being that God joined him to?

As I pondered on this question, I remembered the word in 1st Peter 3:7
In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.

See, the reason why a husband finds it so hard to love his wife is because he doesn’t live with her in “understanding.”

Understanding requires hard work of which most husband’s do not like to invest in.
How does a husband gain understanding of his wife?

By spending time with her to know what makes her tick. By listening to her. By increasing your time together. By learning her language of love.

Notice how God calls husbands to love their OWN wives! Not someone else’s. There is no room for looking outside your marriage covenant.

He needs to till his OWN land.
He needs to cultivate his OWN family.
He needs to nourish his OWN wife.
He needs to protect his OWN wife.
He needs to invest in his OWN wife – and make his own wife and marriage a priority.
He needs to love his OWN wife as his OWN body.

We need to pray that our husbands should be willing to love us through the seasons, protect us with their strength and his provision should surpass the material gains of this world.

That they will love our souls, our hearts, our lives, our bodies (and all the changes that have happened), our calling, our all. There should be no one out there who moves towards us with a focused energy like our husbands.

He should should touch your innermost being and overwhelm you with his kindness for nothing is the ultimate personification of the gospel like the marriage covenant.

His mind should be on you.
It’s not just about trying harder, it’s all about relying on the power of the Holy spirit.

Only the Holy spirit can rid of the pride, the chauvinism, the ego-centrism, or perhaps the “tyranny of urgent” that tends to spin our husbands off the radar, pulling them towards others and other things other than his family.

May the Lord teach our husbands how to love us, and love us sacrificially.


Heavenly Father, in Jesus mighty name, I thank you for this wonderful day. I thank you for your grace.

You have comnanded my husband to love, and just not any how, as you loved the Church and just like his own body.

I pray that you will teach him. I pray that you will show him, I pray that you will guide him.

Agape love is sacrificial and it’s not easy to give from our own selfishness. So Lord, teach my husband how to love me and pursue me.

Teach his heart to move towards me with his strength and his might. Teach his heart to yearn after me. Teach him to nourish me, teach him to give, teach him to santify me.

In Jesus name, Amen



We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!

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