30 Days of Gratitude: DAY 1-Honour Him

Can anything good come out of this marriage?” I know those words peal through our heads in some ways.
I know it’s even harder to conceive in one’s mind that indeed ‘good’ can come if the marriage has been through hard and tempestuous seasons.

But beginning today, we thrust ourselves into the hands of our Father, bearing sheaves of gratitude for what is now and what is to come. Beginning today, we relinquish control again and again of having “our way” in our marriages and surrender to the able hands of our Father. Beginning today, our vows become not only a declaration of what was, but what will be in the future regardless of the ebbing times.
There’s no other way apart from having a hearts primed towards gratitude.

Whichever way possible, we have to work our marriages out if they have to be fruitful.

DAY 1: HONOR HIM

From the dictionary, the first definition of honor is, high respect;  great esteem. The second definition is the quality of knowing and doing what is morally right. So really, what is honor? The word honor speaks of worth. If you honor something, you put a high value to it.

The Bible, in 1st Peter 3:1-2, speaks to us candidly about honor. It talks to us about honoring our husbands in ways that will cause them to see so much of Christ in us and admire our godly lives without speaking even a word about it.
Honor should be accorded to your husband, not only because of his being, but also because he holds an office that bears a heavy responsibility.

I have come across women who say that their husbands don’t deserve an aorta of respect because they are “ungodly.” That they are not good examples to their children, they are irresponsible with their actions and words, they are not priests in their homes and all that could be termed as negative. Well, here is the hammer of Christ that is NEVER EVER, politically or worldly correct. The Word of the Lord does not come with a set of caveat of choosing when or whether to accord him honor, born again or not.

Am not taking about abuse here. I do not condone abuse. If your relationship is marred with abuse, emotionally or physically, I do suggest that you seek help ASAP instead of keeping quiet. Being passive doesn’t cure an ailing marriage. You need to seek counseling form a trusted couple, your pastor or even your parents.

What am talking about here is a husband who is way less than what you expected him to be, way less than your anticipations. A husband who is not measuring up to your standards. A husband who is probably struggling with various addictions. That is what I am talking about.

Regardless of where he falls on the continuum of faithlessness to faithfulness, you should honor him.
The Bible is very clear on HOW TO HONOR HIM – with your actions. A husband is won over by YOUR ACTIONS, not a day full of bickering and nagging.
Over the years that I have been married, I have realized that my attitude is way contagious to my husband than I thought.

I am the thermostat in my home. I set the mood, the temperature, probably even the oxygen levels in our home. When we used to fight earlier on in our marriage, my husband always said, that he felt like the walls were slowly caving in. All he wanted was to run away before the “walls” crumbled on him.

So let me ask this. Do you make your husband feel like he needs to retreat to the faucet? Do you honor your husband with your actions?
When you argue, do you throw a tantrum or do you take time to cool down and talk about the issue when you are both calm? Do you give your husband the SILENT TREATMENT, as a way of letting him know that you are pissed off?
Do you talk ill about him behind his back? Do you manipulate him into doing your bidding, say, withdrawing intimacy with him?

Do you talk him down using abusive language? Do you do things around the house like picking up his socks, ironing, doing laundry with a mouthful of complains? Are you always critical? Do your actions honor your husband and can he confidently say that you point Christ to him in the way that you live? Think about it.

Do you want husband to change his ways? Perspective is everything. Change the lenses through which you see him and consequently, change your actions towards him. Trust me, marriage is as unto the Lord. Your husband is only a beneficiary of your right stand.

VERSE OF THE DAY: 1st Peter 3:1-2 Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.
D.I.Y: Ask your husband about the things he feels you have knowingly  or unknowingly neglected because they are “not too important to you.”

Go point: You are there to learn – so don’t get too emotional and distracted. It’s about HIM, not YOU.Please don’t raise your issues until he has finished talking. Ask “What do you want me to do to be better?”

PRAYER:
Lord Jesus,
You have called us to honor our marriages with our words and our actions. Help me Lord put on a gentle spirit according to your Word that I may honor my husband in all that I do.
Lord, with my human frailties, I cannot do it. I need you Jesus. Help me love him unconditionally, looking out for his interests and preferences. Help me put my SELF to death. Increase in me that He will see you Jesus when he looks at me.
Help me win him over by my gracious acts, my seasoned speech, and my joyous self. Whatever I do in word or in deed, may you be glorified.
I desire a godly marriage. I desire a godly husband. Help me win him over to you Jesus by honoring him.
In Jesus name I pray,

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We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!

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