It’s January, almost the end of January.

The hustle and bustle of taking our children back to school has taken on a low momentum.

If you are a first time parent to take your children to school, I can assure you that the transition has been one experience for us too.

As we cried our eyes out while ushering our little ones to a new season, let’s all remember as wives, that we had, and still have husband’s around who toiled too to ensure that they have gotten their basic needs too.

However small, we need to cheer them on, they tried, they pushed on, they scaled the walls, they fought, they provided…

Well, for this month, I would like to invite all wives to a 30-day gratitude challenge to your husbands. Hold it! You may say, “Well Mary, my husband is the worst, he doesn’t deserve it!” The more reason am inviting you to this.

It will not be easy, yes probably he doesn’t deserve it as you say, but remember that the Lord calls us to do things differently from what the world says. You may find it absurd, purposeless, probably it will not make any difference in the first 7 days, but grace is always transformative.

You will definitely not have a walk in the park, but you got to be purposeful. If this doesn’t make a mark in him, it will certainly leave an indelible mark on you.

So for this 30 days, these are the rules.

We are going to remain as positive as possible even when circumstances don’t allow us.

If conflict arises, we are going to sort it out “in a positive spirit.” Most time, we will hold our tongues until there is calm in us to resolve it.

If your husband is near, find something he loves- His language – and do it every day for Him.

We will pray for our husbands and marriages.

We will keep kindness on our priority list.

You will say something positive about your husband, to him and through any preferable media – praise him not only privately, but publicly too!

Let’s begin!


When was the last time you said thank you to your husband? Even for the obvious reasons? Paying bills, baby-sitting for you, bringing you shopping, picking you up, coming home from work, clearing the dirty utensils from the dining area, following up on a project, checking up on you, taking your children to school, buying some “wrong groceries”- those which were not on the list?

When was the last time to said, “Hunnie, thank you for the sacrifices you make for us”, even if the world brands them as “men duties?”

I have read toxic articles telling women not to say thank you for the obvious things a man should do. Really? That is what I call toxic feminism.

A feminism with a facade form of strength, bitter and estranged. If indeed to are a woman who desires a heart a heart of Christ, then a thankful heart is one we cannot shun away from.

What bone does it break to say thank you?

In Psalms 100:4, The Bible calls us to enter His gates with thanksgiving in our hearts. God is drawn to a heart full of gratitude.

Probably your “area” is not on the list, but there is one thing he does, even though it’s obvious. Say it loud – “Thank you love for a, b, c…”, “I love you for…”, “You are a great husband because of a, b, c…”

Let your husband know that you are sincerely grateful. You can do a DIY card, or buy a simple heartfelt gift, prepare his food, rub his back – what he loves most!

If you want to eliminate a heart full of discontentment, a heart that drops you right at the comparison traps house, then you need to begin to voice out your gratitude to your husband.

He has brought home a matchbox, say “thank you”, not “what is this?”

He has come home early, say “thank you for coming home early today, we had missed you”, not “Oh, so today you remembered that you have a family?”

Learn to cultivate your heart towards gratitude more than complaints. Do not do it with a heart that expects reciprocity. This challenge is more so for us…to draw more to Christ and less to ourselves. As a result, your husband becomes the beneficiary of the Lord’s indwelling peace in you…

When Christ takes the center stage, changing your husband becomes His assignment, NOT YOURS!

VERSE OF THE DAY: Ephesians 5:20, Giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

DIY: Do something he loves. Maybe it’s a meal. Maybe its watching a football match with him. Maybe it’s a foot rub.

Go point: Be positive! Even if something is pending, say thank you for what he has done already.


Lord Jesus,As I begin this challenge, I pray for grace upon me to be grateful to my husband in little and big ways. Our marriage needs your help.

My heart needs your healing and grace to be kind and gracious to my husband. Show me ways of attending to his needs. Above all, change my heart Lord as I lean on you.

In Jesus name I pray.




We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!

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