Do you find yourself being so critical towards your husband?

Nothing from him is ever good enough? He’s not smart enough, great enough, man enough, fit enough, articulate enough, well-groomed enough – nothing is ever enough for you?

Today, the Lord calls us season our speech with grace towards our husbands.

The hard truth is that we will never be good enough. We will never be all so sufficient to warrant an award of greatness. No matter how much we try clinging to our self sufficiency, we are too limited. We fall short every day, and so do our husbands.

The world demands of their sweat and souls, you are his only haven, away from the harsh and depraved world.

So when our mouths are running amok, telling all and sundry how our husbands are never good enough, are we really building or aren’t we the clear definition of the foolish woman in Proverbs 14:1, who tears down her house with her own two hands?

The Word of the Lord calls us to season our speech. Do not be clamorous.

Meaning that your words, more so to your husband, should be saturated with grace even when he has offended you. It also extends to “when” you should talk.

I know it’s easier said than done. Many times, I have asked the Lord to help me shut up. Yes, shut up. Seems ‘harsh’ but shutting my mouth, for a minute, has saved us from tiffs.

There is a time for everything. Wisdom calls for you to observe your husband and know how best it is to approach him.

Sometimes they are just exhausted, it’s not that they are aloof. So get to learn your husband’s patterns. Do not be quick to pass judgement based on your emotions.

Esther and Abigail are godly examples of grace in the midst of chaos and turmoil. Esther prepared a 3-day banquet before approaching her husband, Abigail waited until morning to address Nabal of the imminent death that lingered the previous day.

How many of us can be that seasoned with our speech? How many of us can shut our mouths for 3 days as we wait for the Lord to give us a strategy on how to talk and when to talk?
How many can wait till morning when we have no anger, and our emotions have cooled off?

Let us season our mouths with good tidings.

Home is where they belong. It calls for us to be deliberate and practice “a shut up” when we are so angry, wait on, just until we have enough words full of flavor – seasoned with salt of grace.

Remember that words can either bind OR wound, the choice is ours fellow wives.

VERSE OF THE DAY: Colossians 4:6 Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.

D.I.Y: Wake him in the morning with a kiss, encourage him before he leaves off for work. Be wary about being critical.
Being saying thank you for what he already is and what he’s doing for you.

Go point: Talk to your husband with love, and grace – no need for haste.


Lord Jesus,

My mouth needs a touch of your grace – that my words will be seasoned with your flavor of grace towards my husband. Jesus, I know that my words can either build my home or destroy it, and the devil always tries to make me destroy it with my words.

Touch my mouth with coals from your throne, that I may know when and how to talk to my husband. Help me build him, encourage him, please him and grace him with words that only you can give me.

May our marriage thrive because of you. May I be my husband’s crown. May I beautify his life. May I be his home, his comfort and bring his heart lots of joy in all perplexities.

Grace me Lord with words of flavor – seasoned with the salt of grace.

In Jesus name I pray.





We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!


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