DAY 2: SAY IT OUT LOUD TO HIM.
I love his smile when I simply say, “Hunnie, I appreciate your sacrifice. I love you. I thank you for a,b,c.”His cheeks turn pink and rosy.His grin brightens, and I can clearly feel the little tingles at his feet.
We all love to be appreciated. We all want to feel that we belong and most importantly, belong to our beloved.
So when was the last time to said, “Hunnie, thank you for the sacrifices you make for us”, even if the world brands them as “the duties of men?”
When was the last time you said thank you to your husband?
Even for the most obvious duties like paying bills, parenting with you, baby sitting for you as you went down to the spa, passing by the grocery shop, picking you up, coming home from work, clearing the dirty utensils from the dining area, following up on a project, checking up on you, taking your children to school, buying some “wrong groceries”- those which were not on the list?
When did you last voice your appreciation to him?
I have read toxic articles telling women not to say thank you for the obvious things a man should do. Really?
That is what I call toxic feminism. A feminism with a façade form of strength, bitter and estranged. If indeed you are a woman who desires a heart a heart of Christ, then a thankful heart is one you cannot shun away from.
What bone does it break to say thank you?
In 1st Peter 3:6, Sarah called Abraham “lord.” She voiced out her appreciation for a man whose engines were well thinly spread out. He reeved up and God reignited their passion. Sarah conceived Issac. You could be clogging up your miracle due to an ungrateful heart.
In Psalms 100:4, The Bible calls us to enter His gates with thanksgiving in our hearts. God is drawn to a heart full of gratitude.
Why do we always say thank you to God yet it’s obvious that He is God? This is the reason. Gratitude rids our hearts off discontentment.
Probably his “area” is not on the list, but there is one thing he does, even though it’s obvious. Voice it loud – “Thank you love for a, b, c…”, “I love you for…”, “You are a great husband because of a, b, c…”
Your husband should know that you are sincerely grateful. You can do a DIY card, post him up, or buy a simple heartfelt gift, rub his back – what he loves most!
If you want to eliminate a heart full of discontentment, a heart that drops you right at the comparison traps house, then you need to begin to voice out your gratitude to your husband.
Has brought home a matchbox? Say “thank you”, not “what is this?”
Has come home early? Say “thank you for coming home early today, we had missed you”, not “Ohh, so today you remembered that you have a family?”
Learn to cultivate your heart towards gratitude more than complaints.
Do not do it with a heart that expects reciprocity, even though we cannot entirely eliminate it. What you need to do is learn to skew yourself towards gratitude than complaints.
This challenge is more so for us…to draw more to Christ and less to ourselves. As a result, our husbands are saturated with the Lord’s indwelling peace in you…
When Christ takes the center stage, changing your husband becomes His assignment, NOT YOURS!
VERSE OF THE DAY: Ephesians 5:20, Giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.
DIY: Do something he loves. Maybe it’s a meal. Maybe its watching a football match with him. Maybe it’s a foot rub.
Go point: Be positive! Even if he hasn’t finished on a certain project, of something is pending, say thank you for what he has done already.
As I take on this challenge today, I pray for grace upon me to be grateful to my husband in little and big ways. Our marriage needs your help.
My heart needs your healing and grace to be kind and gracious to my husband. Show me ways of attending to his needs.
Above all, change my heart Lord as I lean on you. Jesus Christ take the center stage. Change him for your glory, change him for your honor, may he be your never ending assignment.
I surrender him to you and I surrender my heart to you. Change my heart for your glory!In Jesus name I pray.