30 DAYS OF GRATITUDE : DAY 5 – PRAISE HIM.
DAY 5: PRAISE HIM
I keenly watched my husband as he skinned a goat years back.
He did it with such dexterity that I concluded that he had years of experience at hand. As he did it, we were engaged in our usual conversation about the future, interjecting them occasionally with questions like, “why are you skinning it this way instead of that way?”
He explained and answered – with jargons, and gist!
It was so impressive that I kept showering him with praises all the way long.
When the day set, he said, “Hunnie, do you know it was my first time to do all that!”
My jaw dropped, “Really?”
“Yes! but I couldn’t tell you then, your praises were too sweet!”
We had a good laugh. Still, it was impressive, but the engraved mark was, he kept going because of the praises I kept showering on him.
We all love to be praised. Don’t we?
Praised for a good job well done at work, praised for raising up devoted and disciplined children, how we dress, how we look, the accolades we have achieved – we love praises.
Praise is good. It’s inherent in every human being since we are God’s creation – created in His image and likeness.
All throughout the scriptures, we see kings who loved to be praised, and we see a King, our God, whose heart warms up when praises are drawn to Him.
Psalm 147:11 declares, He is a God who delights in the praises of His people.
Psalm 150:6, says, Let everything that has breath praise the Lord.
That said, when was the last time you genuinely praised your husband?
When did you praise him for being so hardworking?
When was the last time you praised him for how he makes love to you?
When was the last time you praised him for being an active father to your children? When did you last praise his leadership skills both at home, work or in ministry?
When did you last praise his listening skills or his patience?
When last did you praise his sense of style?
Every husband has something unique about him that craves for his wife’s heart posture of praise.
However, we do take what they do for granted you know.
As I said, we brand them as “men duties” and responsibilities which of course they are, but having responsibility doesn’t negate the need for extended grace towards him or towards you too.
Wives, don’t we like to be praised by our husbands for a meal well prepared? For getting an award at work? For how we look?
I see it everyday on my Facebook timeline. Women posting up pictures and so elated when someone says, especially a man, says “Beautiful”, “Nice body! “, “Perfection”…
We do love praises too!
So let’s not look the other way. The same measure of grace you and I want extended to us, should be extended to our husbands, and even more.
Let’s remember that our audience is “as unto the Lord”, our husbands, are only beneficiaries of our surrendered lives to Christ, hearts yielded to the Potter for refining.
Probably he’s not as active as you, but praise him into being active.
Praise him for his intentional acts of pursuing you- even if not your way.
Praise him for being so hardworking and sweating off to provide for you. Praise him!
You better buy a tutu skirt and shake it all for him in praise.
Our God dwells in the praises of his people. God loves praises.
Praise draws people and praise will draw your husband to you. It definitely shows the posture of your heart. Are you a calloused wife, or one who is being molded?
He might not be all that, but praise him into greatness – you will see the change!
Find lilt and buoyancy in your marriage, through wonderment, and praises to your husband each day.
Great designs are made when unneccessary details are eliminated, and great marriages are made when unnecessary expectations are burnt too!
Words like, “He has to”, “He needs to”, the “shouldaaa couldaaa wouldaaa…”, beat them off!
He has something worth to be praised for!
VERSE OF THE DAY: Psalm 147:11 God who delights in the praises of His people.
DIY: Write a text, or call him, praising his every doing – work, family, your love life, his physique.
You can also have an out of the box, nicely cooked dinner tonight. Add something special, let him know how much you adore everything he does!
Go point: Don’t expect him to pick up your silent cues. Be vocal, either in texting, calling, or the social media!
Many times, I expect my husband to praise me and see the good in what I do for him, yet, I rarely remember that he too deserves it.
Teach me to praise my husband in everything that he does no matter how trivial it seems to me.
Teach to be his greatest fan and supporter. Teach me to be a wife who sees the greatness in him.
Teach me to number my days in wisdom, that I will spend little or no time in being a prosecutor, but a great cheerleader in all he does.
Lord teach my heart your ways, for you are full of wisdom. I need more wisdom Lord in my marriage.
In Jesus name I pray.