30 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 5: RESPECT HIM
DAY 5: RESPECT HIM
D.I.Y: Demonstrate your respect to him by following his lead – especially in something that you two have not agreed on. Tell him that you have a different opinion on it, but you trust his judgement and you know that the Lord will guide him.
Go point: Be calm and excited on his endeavor(s), follow through with what he asks you to do
I know we are gifted. We got the 6th sense. We feel things unseen. We know that a project might fail way before it begins. Therein lies that danger of being too pushy and overbearing.
I have made that mistake in my marriage once. I was definitely sure about the probability of a certain project failing, but didn’t articulate it with grace.
I lacked wisdom on how to approach my husband. I thought shouting it down, watering it down will make him see my point. Well, it costed us our peace and happiness for some time – and definitely a loss.
But then the lord taught me again. Demonstrating respect to him, is as simple as articulating your counter opinion with grace, encouraging his endeavors as you pray that the Lord will reveal to him what might be the “blind spots.”
Works! I have never looked back.
However, disappointed you might feel on the one, twice or numerous losses both of you might have encountered, the only remedy is to cure your “how to.”
Most husbands do listen to their wives who know “how to” address and issue with grace. It makes them feel respected. His deepest longing is to feel respected by the woman he has chosen to stand by.
Does he want to get a new TV set and you would rather save? Find “how to” talk to him – be gracious.
Does he want to buy an IPhone X while you have an old phone that needs “jump-starting” and restarting often? Find your “how to”.
We have been graced with so much charm! How about serenading him, intoxicating him with your love until he surrenders!
Find your “how to”
VERSE OF THE DAY: Ephesians 5:33, However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
You have asked us to ask for wisdom in dealing with the issues of life.
Here i am asking for grace and wisdom to respect my husband. It’s not easy following through things he asks – and more so when I have a different approach of things.
Teach me to respect his opinions and even go a step further of having the grace to support him as I lean on you on his behalf.
Help me not to be push over but demonstrate respect through following his lead. Teach me ways of handling our different perceptions and give me the grace of being submissive.
Teach me how to ask without being demanding and say without being arrogant.
In Jesus name I pray.