DAY 8: LIVE PEACEABLY WITH HIM
So then, let us pursue [with enthusiasm] the things which make for peace and the building up of one another [things which lead to spiritual growth].
Isn’t pursuing peace hard? Especially if your husband is the offender? Isn’t it much easier to wait on as they pull their acts together, say ‘i am sorry’, rather than pursue that much needed peace?Totally understandable but for how long? How long will both of you rotate around the circle of holding onto offenses while hardened towards a posture of humility and growth?
The Lord is asking us today, He’s asking you to be the willing factors in your marriage. To be the change catalysts. You cannot sit back every time you have been offended, waiting for your husband to make truce with you. The active verb here is pursue, and not begrudgingly, but with enthusiasm.
It’s not a peace treaty, it’s a covenant. You might think that it’s slowing his learning curve in matters reconciliation, but in actual sense, that act is transformative.
Silent treatment might work once, twice, until the domino effect becomes the new normal. He will retreat back.
The inevitable effect will be a nagging bitter woman who is scared of losing her family but at the same time has no control over it. Is it worth it? A nagging woman is like a leaking faucet -[Proverbs 27:15-20] It’s not possible to keep up with a bitter, nagging and critical wife. As I previously said, get your “how to”, it goes a long way in sorting out an impasse, non the less, be the change catalyst.
Take the bold step of pursuing peace even if you are the offended one. That will be more than enough to teach him about peace. The Bible says that they are won over by our actions! 1st Peter 3:1.
Rightness is only valid in the context of reconciliation. The Bible says that it is our choice to make peace. It’s not a card that your husband holds. You hold the peace card too! Use it.
Seek peace with him. Peace has to have a sacrifice and that sacrifice is worth it!
D.I.Y: Make time for reconciliation. You can sit down with him, stand up, cuddle him (Make sure it is FACE TO FACE) – whichever works for you and say, “My love, I know that we have rubbed each other wrongly, I am sorry for the misunderstanding, please forgive me.”
Go point: Be the bigger person. Put down the pride and reach out to him FIRST
VERSE OF THE DAY: Romans 12:18, If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
Am not so good when it comes to asking for forgiveness. I would rather block my husband off and wait up.
But you call me towards something that you personally did. Running towards a bride who seems to care less. Washing her and cleansing her, and making her spotless.
So today Lord Jesus, I pray for a bigger heart. Heart of reconciliation with my husband.
A heart to make peace.Forgive me Lord for listening to the wrong advice that silent treatment works.Forgive me for taking the value of peace in our marriage for granted.
Today Lord, help me make peace with my husband. Give me the grace to always be the bigger person without gloating about it. You have told me in your Word, that peace is always dependent upon my choice to make it.
I need to make peace with my husband in areas that we have disagreed.
Teach me to love him even through the hard seasons of our marriage. Above all, teach me to make peace with him. In your peace, there in lies your blessings. Grace me lord.
In Jesus name I pray.