People taunted her for being too plain at her wedding day.She wore no makeup, her hair had a plain up do, her nails were short and manicured, and her gown was a simple flowing satin.
The “society”, whom we struggle to impress, expected her to present herself in a certain way over her wedding, yet the groom couldn’t wait to make her his wife.
… and of course, I was part of the society which wanted her to look “wedding-ish.”
Nothing mattered to him. He was so smitten. She was beautiful in his sight.
The guests who struggled walking on 7inch heels didn’t matter, those who froze trying to catch an eye didn’t matter, the make-up, the long aggressive type looking nails didn’t matter, at least to both of them.
There’s certainly nothing wrong with wearing your makeup or dressing up properly for an occasion, but, if it is used to camouflage a stinking attitude, then no amount of it will deodorize it.
So attraction is good, and beauty is great, but beauty isn’t so beautiful without the ongoing sanctification of the Holy Spirit. Go with me here. See, God’s Word on beauty is not as one-dimensional as our own. It’s not superficial, it’s skin deep. That’s what we all need to grasp.
According to the wisdom of God, beauty is good but it can be deceptive.
The book of Proverbs, warns the men against being unduly captured by a woman’s beauty.
In Proverbs 6:25, we read the caution, “Do not desire her beauty in your heart, and do not let her capture you with her eyelashes.”
The key phrase to ponder on in Proverbs 6:25 is “in your heart,” and “capture.” To capture, is not the same as being “captivated”.
You can be captivated, but that’s the furthest it should go in being in that enchanted bubble. Next, one should take on the reins if his or her heart, and direct those feelings through the right conduit. The vault of plumbing deeper for the character.
If you capture beauty in your heart, then it automatically goes to show that you have lowered your guards. The Bible says, in Proverbs 4:23, Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
Above the beauty, above the attraction, about the sexual desires, above the chats, above the calls, above the dates, guard your heart. Take the reins, so that you will be able to see beyond what is presented.
The challenges is to move beyond mere external appearances and wisely consider the beauty of the heart.
Proverbs 31:30 says: “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”
I definitely would also peg the same quality on the men. A man who fears the Lord, is to be praised too.
For beauty to be vain means that we can be solely preoccupied with the external outlook of a person that we forget the condition of their hearts or character.
For beauty to be deceitful means it can mascaraed as the truest thing, and miss a deeper revelation that could get us tangled by sin. Remember even the ancient for comes as “an angel of light.”
In short, we can be easily baited by our attractions down the wrong paths. Beauty, attraction, if not directed, could easily lead us away from the paths of righteousness.
Of course, you ought to marry somebody you find attractive, but, the sense of beauty itself, the romance, must run much deeper than the physical attraction.
Certainly in marriage, the nurturing of attraction must be enduring. Enduring the changes that come with the years, affected by the bearing of children, the slowing of metabolisms, the weathering of skin, and even the ravages of illness and hardship.
So, for love to spread it’s branches wide and it’s roots deeper, you simply cannot rely just on a handsome look, or beauty.
Don’t turn your dating life into some crass form of self mechanizing by working so hard on your outward appearance, that you forget the health of your heart. Your character. Your reputation.
Poverty of character is signing a death warrant of your future.
Beauty is vain. Romance, is highly soluble, and so the two need to be loosely sat on. Even loosely held. True beauty must be cultivated, sort after, prayed for and worked for.