Gal! Part2: On Taking up “Space”

I think most ladies have an issue taking up “space” in a relationship. There’s this consistent feeling, a nudge that keeps whispering that if you speak up, he will leave.

If you ask for what you need, he will leave, so you’d better keep your needs unmentioned, small, or tag them as irrelevant.

We make small concessions and before we know it, we are in a space where we do not know what we should or should not tolerate.

While it’s true that we should be considerate – Philippians 2:3- doing nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility, the parallel is the fact that you shouldn’t lose your uniqueness at the expense of a relationship.

“But the guy I’m talking to is so sweet and a Christian. I’m pretty positive he likes me. He’s just waiting on a few confirmations, and God’s timing to make a move.”

If I could, I’d slap you_(pun) across the face and say, “WAKE UP!”

Gal, this isn’t Paradise Island where happiness seems ubiquitous; this is REAL LIFE, and that mindset is all about self-minimization.

If there’s a man who is intimidated by your uniqueness, then I would suggest an immediate sever from him.

Such a mindset does not empower you to live in fullness enjoying every bit that God made you be. Christ unfettered you from such yokes and bondage, and He desires you to live a life of abundance.

Isaiah 61:1 says the spirit of the Lord God hath anointed me to preach good tidings unto the meek; He hath sent me to bind up the broken-hearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to those that are bound.

The worst bondage is that of the mind, and unfortunately, a relationship can serve as a catalyst to that.

See, he is there, making excuses for his lack of intentional acts, and you excuse it every time.

Gal, that homeboy is never going to chase you. Not because God hasn’t given him a ‘release,’ but because he doesn’t WANT to and it’s all right.

Thank God for that door that seems so stubborn to open because God could be saving you from a heart shattering experience.

You don’t need to force it gal because it will take off and land right at the same lane

We are compelled to speak and take action when we desire something.

Of course, as believers, we take time to consult the Holy Spirit and ask Him to guide our decisions, but at the end of the day, we are living a human experience, our steps being ordered by the Lord.

When I am hungry, I don’t pray about whether I should eat_unless am fasting.

I desire to eat because it comes out of a natural need to nourish my body, and out of that place, I will be drawn to where I can get some nourishment.

That’s how God designed it.

When it comes to finding a spouse, the equation is the same. You need companionship, and you are drawn to what is attractive by a desire for a healthy individual to do life with that will lead to nourishment for your soul. That’s how God designed it.

Stop excusing his actions.

You have control over how you show up in your relationships.

You have control over your perspective.

You have control over if you decide to speak up.

You have control over your own care. You are fully responsible for yourself. . .and you are worthy of pursuit!



We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!

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