Genesis 24:12-14

Then he said, “O Lord God of my master Abraham, please give me success this day, and show kindness to my master Abraham. Behold, here I stand by the well of water, and the daughters of the men of the city are coming out to draw water.

Now let it be that the young woman to whom I say, ‘Please let down your pitcher that I may drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I will also give your camels a drink’—let her be the one You have appointed for Your servant Isaac. And by this I will know that You have shown kindness to my master.”

“I don’t think this relationship should continue, we are just not fit for each other!”

“Really?” I said. “I thought you had something else to say!” “You are on the wrong, yet are too proud to admit your mistakes, instead sermon me for a break up?”

My face was now red. I could feel some tiny sweat beads flow down my thighs. He stood up, dusted himself and left me sited.

“No! John Munene, we are not done with this conversation! It’s far from over Mr.!”

“Oh yes I am!” he said, crossing Haile Selassie road so briskly you could have sworn that he was running away from something.

Our tiny tiff had snowballed into a brawl –a break up.

My heart hurt. A huge gulp of air choked me out. My heart hurt. I guess not so much from the rejection but his lack of admittance to his faults. Of course I was not entirely clean. We never used to fight fair.

I was never going to go down that road again. That road where my identity was highly pegged on my relationship. As soon as he said those words, I closed that chapter. I was done. I spent next week(s) asking the Lord to heal my wounded heart and restore unto me the joy of His salvation.

Break ups are hard for anyone, but I chose not to walk down the rebound path again. The Lord would eventually clear out the fog in my life.

Days moved on, albeit with a heaviness of heart. I remember telling the Lord that no man would ever replace His place in my heart, and if a relationship was going to severe my relationship with Him, I asked Him to cut it off. I asked Him to ripple the waters and stir everything out that is not His. I asked the Lord to help me move on and forget Johnny if the relationship was not in His will.

Weeks on, he tried to get in touch with me but I was way on my path to recovery. I texted back and told him to move on with his life. I am too.

But God! What hit me was the sense of peace of God that enveloped me immediately after. I will never forget the text I got back from him. It was my perfect confirmation that the Lord was in this.

It took us a few days to re-connect back and committed ourselves again to start our relationship afresh, this time with our Pastor holding us accountable to every deed, each and every word.

Johnny told me that God spoke to him too. His was much more detailed than mine. We needed to hear from our Pastor too about our relationship, so we sort his godly direction too.

The story might be too boring for some of us. Am not trying to give you this story so as to replicate in yours. No. My point is, God always has to confirm through a counsel of two or more people who are earnestly praying for you and have your best interests at heart.

You should however be very wary of whom you share out your dreams and goals to. Not every voice is the voice of the Lord. Above all, seek that confirmation through discernment, [1st John4:1] personally from Christ. He is able to talk to you.

We may hear from God, but God always has to confirm it –[Mark 16:20]. If what is shown contradicts His nature, His will and His Word, then truly it’s not Him. The enemy has counterfeits and unless you know the TRUTH and test and APPROVE every word – [1st John 4:1], then you need to put a kibosh over that relationship.

For instance, the Lord cannot direct you towards a married man or woman in the name of married. He is not a confused God. He cannot ask both of you to be intimate with each other before marriage, yet He calls out to keep and honor the marriage bed. He cannot direct you to someone who truly has no regard for your personal relationship with Christ. It’s not possible.

We have to admit to our hearts folly. Most of us rush into relationships without asking God for His confirmation. We fear being alone. We fail to trust God enough that He has our best at heart and we would rather trade the infinite glory of what awaits, for what is seen, just for comforts sake.

Unfortunately, the peace He gives, it’s not what the world gives. The relationship might seem so surreal at first, but it’s a fading realm without His leading.

We should get as bold as Moses and say, “Lord I cannot go without your presence!”- [Exodus 33:15]

“If it’s truly him/her Lord, let me know. Let your peace overshadow us. Give us direction!” That should be your prayer if the Lord has set you on this path.

But wait, what if the Lord says No! We know that tug in our bellies. The war that goes inside us? That is the HolySpirit bearing witness to you that He is not for it. Then why do we wrestle it down?

Do not be afraid to boldly ask the Lord to confirm to you if the one standing before you is His choice. Do not be driven by loneliness that it clouds His voice, instead, be ready to surrender to whichever direction He leads you.

It might be a resounding YES, or an equally resounding NO!

Regardless of what end of the spectrum you find yourselves on, I believe God gives a sense of peace that goes beyond our understanding. It’s a supernatural “knowing” that God alone deposits into a believer that confirms His voice. It might not make sense but you strongly sense His presence around it.




We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!


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