So much of a good marriage is tied down to Good “spousing.”

When we keep each other’s love-tank full, we are better at everything—better parents, better friends, better employees, better neighbors, all because we are not in starvation mode.

So hubby and I have been at that lately.

We cleared our schedules, finished up with couples on our list and have been concentrating on us, went off social media for a while, shopping, relaxing, and having fun together, building a stockpile of memories and experiences with each other.

It allows our bond to grow even stronger because our hearts are in the same place.

In today’s society, it’s easy to over-commit, at the end of the day, you will be going in opposite directions as you are both trying to get a bunch of activities done.

It actually does more harm than good.

So this is something we intentionally keep to a bare minimum.

Time together is of high value to us, because time is also freedom. Part of what we love to do with our time is serve together. There is nothing quite like having a “helper’s high” together.

But even as you serve, be watchful that you don’t pour into your own jars too.

We are not saying that every waking moment should be spent together sharing each other’s air, but we are saying that time together needs to be a high priority.

Time is our ultimate currency. You can never get it back once it’s passed and there are no rollover minutes. Your spouse will either increase or decrease in value based on your input towards them.

If your spouse is asking for something that isn’t on your personal preference list, take time to reflect on what the deeper need is.

This will help you have compassion and grace even if you don’t resonate with the specific need itself.

Listening is key to understanding and gaining insight.

As you peel the layers back, story by story, often what is found are pockets where the love they wanted to feel is missing and the attention they so deeply craved is absent. With every faithful act of love and loyalty, we begin to fill those empty spots and help them feel whole and wholly loved.

We missed you too! Our tanks are full and so are our pictures 😀.

If you don’t know us, welcome aboard. We are The Munenes’. We love the Lord, we love the calling of God on our lives and we love marriage and definitely love blogging about it! It’s beautiful!



We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!

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