It’s that time of the year when the town is slowly gaining it’s red hue again. Love ballads, lovers fiddling each other’s earlobes, the giggles that I sure do pray they will last the seasons. It’s that time of the year when pious platitudes fly high. Statements like “You will finally meet the person of your dreams when you become totally content in your relationship with God.”

Oftentimes, we use phrases like this to lift someone’s spirits and help redirect their attention back to God as the center of their satisfaction for life. . .and it’s totally great because if you don’t, you will be tempted to pray more for marriage and think less of your personal relationship with the Lord.

Here me. God is not a reluctant father nor does He manipulate, torment, or put a deadline on our desires based on our fulfillment of Him. Matthew 7:11 says, “If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” Not to say God rewards disobedience, but He truly loves to bless His kids.

The truth is, experiencing contentment in our relationship with God will be a lifetime journey. We will never be so content that it unlocks bonus blessings. This isn’t Mario Cart. This is life and it’s full of wildly unpredictable twists and turns.

We learn to cling to God through it all—in singleness, dating, marriage, in parenting, in grief, in lack, in merriment, and in those moments when God’s silence is deafening. Philippians 1:6 says, “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

We don’t have to strive for contentment. We can rest in knowing what God began in us He is watching over, giving us both the will and desire to please Him.

It’s alright to desire marriage. It is right to pray for the right spouse, and then rest on and surrender to God’s will as you journey through this life. You cannot earn God’s approval by contriving ideas about how you can find this ‘total contentment’ by shutting down the desire for a relationship.

Meeting your right fit not contingent on the contentment we find in our relationship with God, but I will say our happiness and fulfillment of life sure as heck is. God doesn’t need emotional martyrs serving Him. He is looking for a cheerful and a glad heart.

So I encourage you to pursue contentment, but don’t stop there.

Seek adventure in the beautiful life in front of you. Don’t close yourself up. Dress up. Smell good. Travel, be uninhibited but not reckless. Run after God and surround yourself with like-minded people. Chase your enthusiasm and master your craft. Chances are, you’ll meet someone really special along the way. Your right fit. You don’t need to show up in a wedding dress on the first date – figuratively, but as you pursue God, as you bloom in your planter, you will embrace the season when time comes without carving an idol out of it – and your planter will spread out to be a breathtaking vineyard.


We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!

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