Keep your emotions in check. We tend to be unnecessarily rough to those close to us, but I’ve learned that true strength is self-restraint.

I can tell you for sure that I was a total let down when it came to how I reacted to my husband’s faults, a mistake, an error or even a flaw. I could erupt in the blink of an eye and make a mountain out of a mound of soil. I would snap without hesitation. I would react without much thought. Anger controlled me.

Yes I was a slave to this 5th circle of hell’s gate. The gate of anger and emotional outbursts.My emotions were a mess and provided a very fertile breeding ground for bitterness and resentment. However innocent my wishes and desires were for a thriving and a good marriage, however hopeful I was for Johnny to change one or two things I had issues with, my approach was off. So off that we run aground.

This was ofcourse one of the major issues we stuggled with in our marriage. I can tell you this in all certainty, if God worked on me, if God taught me, if I submitted to His hands for a remold, if God changed my heart, if God tempered my spirit, so can He, to anyone willing and obedient to heed His call.

Anger is sin, just like any other sin and it goes to prove that you haven’t yet birthed the fruit of self control.

Self control is a fruit not born only in restraining our sexual urges or cravings, but also in subjecting every emotion, every thought, every imagination, all desires and longings under the radar and the Lordship of Christ.

In Matthew 26, Peter let his emotions fly off the handle, while Jesus, who has authority over 12 legions of angels, let Himself get arrested.

How about that! He had unlimited power, but knew His strength was for a purpose, and kept it in it’s place. His emotions were stacked right. His instruction to Peter is what He says to us who are so often unnecessarily rough with each other: “Put your sword in it’s place”. In other words, keep your emotions in check.

True strength is not getting even and dealing harshly, but trusting God’s purposes and letting Him put people in their place, however hurt you feel.

Proverbs 14:17 says, “Short-tempered people do foolish things”.

Without self-control, you are out of control and can’t be under God’s control. The longer your fuse, the more you can be used. You are only as powerful as you can resist being provoked.

That was a hard lesson for me to learn in marriage. Manage your emotions or you will be manipulated by them. When you are manipulated by your emotions it makes a mess.

The times where it’s the easiest to react, it’s most critical you don’t. You have to grab the reins before you go in the wrong direction. Put a stop between feeling and doing. Slow down and zoom out—way out. Do what it takes to keep a long view. Get yourself some perspective.

Matthew 26:54 says, “How then could the Scriptures be fulfilled?” At any moment, had Jesus given the word, the 12 legions of angels would have dispatched his enemies, but what would have become of us? The only way our salvation was possible was because Jesus kept His power in it’s place. He kept His emotions in check.

True strength is in self-restraint.True strength is in self-control, not in one thing, in everything. In how you talk, walk, what you listen, what you eat, how you eat.

Don’t tell me about “kujenga mwili” while you are hoarding up on food. That’s gluttony. You aren’t in control of your appetite. Don’t tell me you couldn’t resist sleeping with her, or him. That’s lust. You aren’t in control of your desires. Don’t tell me you couldn’t resist the business deal, no matter how tainted your integrity would be. That’s greed. You aren’t in control of your desire for affluence.

There is a legion ready for you, fighting for you as you do the will of God. Let God put people in their place, just focus on keeping your power where it belongs. Keep your emotions in check.

Think before you answer your spouse back.I definitely encourage keeping quiet until your emotions are cooled down and your mind is in the right perspective to talk issues out.

Again, let God put people in their place. Just focus on keeping your emotions in check.



We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!

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