If you are a couple struggling with this, know that it’s within your purview to make this right.
GOD said a man shall LEAVE his family and CLEAVE to his wife.

While certainly most men struggle with leaving and cleaving, I have seen some ladies too.
Couples must not be afraid to establish healthy but firm boundaries to give their spouses priority over their parents and siblings.

It’s the honour that marriage deserves. It doesn’t mean that you cease to talk to your parents or siblings, but it should be very clear that you run everything through your spouse.

Otherwise, you won’t cleave enough to your spouse if your allegiance and dependence is more on your parents and siblings over your wife or husband.

Healthy limits should be put and if you’re a parent out there, never make your child feel that they have to choose.

Part of parenting of which am learning, is to armor our children to be “sent”, not to “stay.”

There’s no cleaving if there’s no leaving.


We are John and Mary Munene and we love the Lord! Christ is our all in all! All we are is by God’s grace. Apart from having our individual careers, we are ardent bloggers, authors and misters of God's word. We have been blessed with two amazing children. A beautiful daughter and a handsome son. We love adventure, anything with lots of adrenaline is always a ‘go-thing’ for us! A cup of coffee next to a fireplace and a good book always does good to our souls! Hope you enjoy this blog!

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